2)continue to do "normal" things. I love it when Hans gets annoyed with me and doesnt treat me like I am going to kick the bucket if he does
3)be prepared to listen and have the weight of emotions put on you. Your brother will need it. But that doesnt mean you have to bear all the responsibility, you too can unload your burdens to someone, in fact you will need to. But let your brother know he can come to you with anything.
I will think some more. I am so sorry for you and your brother.
I feel fine today, that's how I deal with it, day to day. Some days I feel like absolute doo doo, other days I forget (almost) that I have cancer.
How was your brother's diagnosis made?
I was diagnosed in August, I thought I had the flu, hepatitis at the worst. what's worse is that I had just had my gall bladder out the previous November, not a sign, my poor surgeon about fainted when he found out. Everyone deals with this in their own way, I find humor is the best way for me. I remember playing a trick on my oncologist, got a fake tattoo and told him I got drunk in Mexico. The tattoo said "It's all about me!"
I have a blog, http://thecdr.blogspot.com I've found it very cathartic, and I tell people that this is the ONLY place that they will find the truth about me and my illness, any other source is pure gossip and not allowed!]]>
Do your parents know? Are they reachable? Don't you think they would want to come back to be with you and your brother?
My prayers and good wishes are with you as you embark on this journey]]>