As I read one of the blogs that I've been following, an expression struck me like a lightning.
"It won't always be the other person"
The very nice and religious lady was quoting what her dad used to tell her to urge people who don't know God to surrender their lives to him immediately.
Her invitation to seek God is not what STRUCK ME...
Her words took me back in time to the end of 2012. Gee, it is been almost 2 years...
At that time, I was still thinking that I am an invincible guy. I was fearless, no boundaries, took everything I had for granted and fell asleep at night without blinking( most of the time)
I NEVER predicted how the next 2 years will change my life FOREVER.
The irony is that we always think tragedies are not going to happen to us. We feel sorry for others, we try to comfort them as much as we can, but once we walk away we JUST FORGET and go back to our normal lives.
What most of us don't realize, as we go back to what is so called "Our Normal Lives", is that neither the cancer patient nor his family have a normal life anymore.Actually THEY DO NOT HAVE A LIFE AT ALL.
The F€£%¥£# cancer is everywhere around them, hiding in every corner, whispering in their ears that he is there trying to take you loved one. It can only say IT IS TRAUMATIZING.
I can keep going on and on till I use every word in the dictionary to describe this dreadful disease.
My life has forever changed, I am a different person than I was almost 2 years ago. I am still struggling to find my new normal now since my brother in law and my mother died in less than a year but I admit learning my lesson the hard way.
I know now that when cancer hits a family, it is our job to be there for them and let them feel our love and support. That means MAKE AN EFFORT and FIND AS MUCH TIME as we can to show our support and compassion. We can't do it just when it is only convenient for us.
If you or your family have never faced this ugly monster, and I hope you will never do, just remember:
"IT WON'T ALWAYS BE THE OTHER PERSON"