Darlene......I would like to follow the others and welcome you to our site. Not sure why the oncologist reacted the way she/he did but for this disease in particular you would first want to obtain surgical opinions and that opinion should come from a physician "very" familiar with this cancer. You did what was the right thing to do, Darlene.
Below are the guidelines set forth by the Cholangiocarcinoma Foundation and can be found on the home page: Patients and Caregivers, tab: Newly Diagnosed.
"Cholangiocarcinoma can be difficult to both diagnose and treat. If possible, newly diagnosed patients should go to a major cancer center or medical institution that provides cholangiocarcinoma patients the option to have their specific case seen by a tumor board and/or multidisciplinary team before receiving any kind treatment. A tumor board consists of a medical oncologist, surgical oncologist and a radiation oncologist – this team would jointly view your medical records making a recommendation for the best course of treatment for each individual patient. A multi-disciplinary team consists of the above (a medical oncologist, surgical oncologist and a radiation oncologist) plus any or all of the following: Interventional Radiologist, Advanced Gastroenterologist, Cancer Registrar, Genetic Counselor, Clinical Trial Coordinator. It is very important to find a doctor and team who is experienced in treating cholangiocarcinoma. "
Don't have much to add to the wise responses received from Gavin, Lainy, Julie, Duke and Melinda other than that you are in the right place for support and caring. We are in this together.