This is a message to JeffG, Ron Smith, Janecw, Kath, celoi, & Peter.

My mum died a few months ago now after 10 months of her cancer.

Myself and my 2 brothers were with her, and although she suffered a lot through the last few months, she passed away with great dignity and courage.

We managed to look after her at home, and she died in her own bed, in the house she loved, as we had promised her we would.

Thank you for the help and advise you gave me in my time of need.

It really was a great help.

Her last words were

" i was so lucky to have such wonderful sons".

Thank you all, and i hope that you are all ok.

I admire you more than words could ever say.

Andy

Hi Everyone,

Thanks for the replies celoi, and peter.

This was a second opinion, and it was much the same as the first.

The cancer is very high up, and is attached to several main portal veins from the liver, and is also in a lot of the liver.

They both said my mum would not survive the surgery as it would involve major arterial reconstruction, and also they didn't think they could get rid of all the cancer.

Am trying to see an oncologist at ST james hospital in Leeds to see if there is any treatment at all in terms of chemo, but non has been offered so far.

I am waiting for an appointment, and every day that goes by seems like an eternity. I can't really hassle them much more than i am already.

Thanks for listening.

Andy

Hi Everyone,

Not great news on my mum,

Peter Lodge has said it is non operable, and there is literally nothing that can be done.

We also haven't been offered any chemo as they think it will be to hard on my mum, as she is 78, and has already a history of heart trouble and diabetes.

All we can do now is be there for her, and try and make the time she has left as good as possible.

I can't believe that only 6 weeks ago i was in town with her drinking coffee and talking about holidays, that seems a long time ago now.

Sorry if this is a sad message, but its how ifeel.

Thanks

Andy

Hi Everyone,

Thanks so much for your replies.

Its a lonely place when all you have are questions and no answers.

My mum is being treated in Leeds, so i will be trying to get hold of the Peter Lodge, that Ron suggested.

I have also found out that Dr Valle in Christies is doing a clinical trial, and will at least try and get my mum on this if possible.

Its very frustrating as it feels like every second counts, and already a week has passed.

Thanks you all for helping me with this.

Andy

I found out on Tuesday Jan 8th 2008  that my mum has bile duct cancer, and that it is not operable.

I was also told that chemo would not help, and that all that can be offered is palliative care.

I am in pieces, and am desperatley trying to find out what to do?

Do i just accept this and wait the 3 / 9 months she has been given to live, or is there anything i can do?

She is 77years, but very young at heart, and she is in denial about the whole thing..

Thanks

Andy / Manchester /UK