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(2 replies, posted in Members' Cafe)

Hi Caroline,

So nice to hear from you again.  Not sure I can be of much help as far as the dreams are concerned, but I think this is an interesting subject and hope others will also chime in with their experiences.

My husband passed away a little over 6 years ago and I still have dreams that include him.  My experience has been somewhat the opposite of yours. 

When awake, although I do believe that he is happy, health and no longer in pain or suffering,  sometimes the thoughts of those days & weeks just overwhelm me.    In dreams I see him as he once was and living a normal life.  The odd thing is that the situations, place and people involved are usually ones that we never experienced when he was alive.  Not sure what to make of that.

It does get better with time, but I do think that these things will always affect us in some way or another.  We just learn how to better deal with it all.   It hasn't been that long since your mom passed away, so what you are going through is probably normal for you in you grieving.   I have learned that everyone grieves differently and at a different pace.   We just have to go with it.   
Sorry I can't be of more help or make it better.  Hopefully time will do that.

I'm sure others will be here soon with their experiences and suggestions.

Take care dear Caroline.  Keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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(57 replies, posted in Members' Cafe)

Thanks for posting this Marion and thanks to Stella for representing all of us and expressing what all of us feel.  Percy touched so many and I am fortunate and proud to say that I was part of his life through this wonderful foundation. 

Love & Hugs to All
Darla

Hi Michelle,

Welcome.  I'm glad you have joined us, but sorry to hear why.   You are definitely in the right place.   Please let us know how you are doing and if we can help in any way with info and support, we are here for you. 

Hugs,
Darla

Lainy,

Glad to hear this.  I  agree, that compared to some we can't complain.  Well, I guess we can, but what good would it do?   smile   Although some days I wonder if God thinks we are stronger than we think we are.  smile   Yes, in many ways we are blessed.    Take care.  Always thinking of you.

Love and Hugs,
Darla

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(6 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Dear Janet,

You have my deepest sympathy  on the loss of your dear husband  Pete.  There are no words that will take away the pain and sadness, but  I am hoping that knowing he is no longer suffering or in pain will help to ease yours.  He will always be with you in you heart and memories of your life together.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you grieve your loss. 

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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(80 replies, posted in Introductions!)

Dear Olga,

I am so sorry to hear that Norbert has passed away.  Your sister's  post on Facebook was a lovely tribute to him.  I am sure he was loved and will be missed by many.

I know that nothing can ease your pain and sadness at this time, but  try to take some comfort in knowing that at least for him he is no longer suffering or in pain.  He will always be with you in your heart and memories of better times.

Your support and dedication to  your brother and sister-in-law is to be commended.  You are a very loving and caring person to be able to do this even as you grieve your loss.

Take care and know that we are all here for you.   

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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(57 replies, posted in Members' Cafe)

Dear Samuel,

Your father  was all that and more.  He will be greatly missed by so many.  No words can take away the pain and sadness of your loss, but as you grieve,  try to take some comfort in knowing that he is no longer suffering or in pain  and will be with you forever in your heart and memories.

Thinking of all of you at this sad and trying time.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Mary Beth,

So sorry to hear this news about Rob.  Know that my thoughts and prayers are with all of you and that you have the help and support of everyone here, too.  Please keep us posted when you can as to how Rob is doing.  We all truly care.

Lot's of love & hugs to you all,
Darla

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(175 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Tom,

Thanks for the update and all the positive news about Ben.  Glad he has improved and yes, stable is a good thing.    Good to hear you have some help & support in his brothers.   Hoping you can get him home soon.  He will be in good hands with all of you and hospice to keep him comfortable.  More good thoughts and positive vibes heading your way.  smile

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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(4 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Dear Helen,

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your very dear friend Bonnie.  She was lucky to have had you as a friend.  You and her family were there for her and she was able to pass on knowing you were all there for her.   I know how hard all of this is, but please try to take some comfort in knowing  that she is no longer in pain or suffering and is now in a better place.  My thoughts are with all of you at this sad and trying time.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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(175 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Tom, 

Thinking of you and Ben.  Hoping things improve.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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(57 replies, posted in Members' Cafe)

Thanks for posting this Marion.  My thoughts have been and will continue to be with Carl and his family.  Lynn will be remember with love by all of us who knew her through this board.

Love & Hugs To All,
Darla

Thanks for this Marion.  It truly is BIG NEWS!  smile

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(175 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Tom,  I'm glad you made this decision.  I know it was a hard thing to do, but you do need and deserve a little time for you.  I'm sure that  Ben will be well taken care of in your absence.  Safe travels and  enjoy.   Both you & Ben are in my thoughts.

Hugs,
Darla

Dear Val,

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear father.  You and your family have my deepest sympathy.   Take comfort in knowing he is no longer in pain or suffering.  He is in a better place.  Keep him forever in your heart and memories.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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(80 replies, posted in Introductions!)

Olga,

I'm glad you two are getting away for a few days.  Hoping for a calm and peaceful time for you with no issues.  Enjoy your time together.  You are dealing with so much right now that I think one moment at a time is in order.  Savor those moments.

Thinking of you both and wishing you all the best.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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(6 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Hi Sandie,

Good to hear from you.  Thanks for the great update.  Hoping to hear more of the same from you in the future.  smile

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Nancy,

Good to hear from you and thanks for share that wonderful news with us.   Positive news is always welcome and much needed on this board.   I am so happy for you and hope for many more years of the same.    Yes, please do let us know how things are going for you when you can.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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(8 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Dear Markssis,

I am so sorry to hear that Mark has passed away.   You and your family have my deepest sympathy.   May knowing that his suffering is over give you some peace.  He will always be with you in your heart and memories.  My thoughts are with all of you at this sad and trying time.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Congratulation Juile!   Wishing you the best in the future.  Enjoy!

Hugs,
Darla

Hi Darlene,

Welcome to the board.  Glad you have found us but sorry you had to.    Can't add much to all the good advice you have already gotten, but I do agree you may want to get more opinions.    Hoping things are going OK and that the scan brings you some positive news.  Update us and let us know how things are progressing.

Darla

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(80 replies, posted in Introductions!)

Oh Dear Olga,

I can only imagine how hard this new news is for you and Norbert.    It is just not fair to have two people so close to you dealing with this terrible disease.    I too hope they will come aboard as although we can't make it better, we can be here to help and support.   Keeping posting and venting  all you want & need to.  We are all here for you.  Keep us updated as you can. Thinking of all of you.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Gavin,  Thanks for sharing.  Love it!  smile

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(11 replies, posted in Members' Cafe)

Great post Duke.  Love your new attitude.    As for the canyon,  we were there and it is awesome to see, but Jim also was afraid of heights and I had all I could do the get him to even get out of the car for a look.  smile  Needless to say we did not do the trek to the bottom, but I have heard it is worth the trip.   I say go for it.  Keep doing what your doing,  living and loving your life.  Kudos to Aimee she sounds like a smart and caring lady.  smile

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dear Kevin,

I am so sorry to read what your father, you and your family have gone through.  You have my deepest sympathy and understanding.  My husband died of this disease 6 years ago, much in the same way as your father., so I truly understand what you are feeling.    I am glad you reached out to Marion as you couldn't have found a better person for help and support.  She is an amazing lady.

My heart goes out to you and your family as you  go  through this sad and trying time.

Hugs,
Darla