Hi Chuck (Dukenukem) love that.
At first I hesitated to reply to this post as my husband passed away 5 years ago from this disease and you don't need to hear that. The good news is that I have seen so many advances in the treatment of CC in the past 5 years that I am hoping for you to do well.
My situation is so much like yours. He was 62 and I have two sons and a daughter-in-law, but also no grandchildren. In his case it just was found way too late and he never even had any treatment options at that point. He died less than 2 months after his first time in ER when they had no idea what was going on. I guess the good news is he didn't suffer long, but that is no consolation. When I start feeling sorry for myself and saying why me? Why us? I try to tell myself to snap out of it and think about those who have it worse than me. Doesn't always work, but I do try.
I totally agree with you that it is not always about me and hopefully I can do some good here and help someone else. I'm sure you will too, but there are days that it needs to be all about you, too.
Unfortunately, I have no answers for you as to treatments or hospice as we never even got that far.
Just wanted to let you know I understand your feelings and hope for the best for you and your family.
You have come to the right place as there are a lot of caring people here who are more than willing to listen and try to help in any way they can.
Love & Hugs,