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(5 replies, posted in Introductions!)

Dear Cassandra,

You have my deepest condolences on the loss of your mother.   She was an active and important part of this community and will be missed be all.   May she rest in peace.

Hugs,
Darla

Dear Gail,

I'm so sorry that things are not going well.

You have already gotten a lot of good advice and suggestions so I guess all I can add is that pain management is very important at this point.  Relish the small moments and enjoy this time with your husband and family as much as you can, making good memories.

My thoughts are with all of you.  Take care.

Hugs,
Darla

Gail,

My heart aches for what you and your family are dealing with right now.  I know how overwhelming it must all be.  Yes, just try to take it one day at a time.  You never know what may be waiting just around the corner.  Enjoy what you can and although I know it is hard, know that you have  a whole lot of people here that truly understand and care.  So keep on rambling.  Getting it out does help.  Up date us when you can.  We truly care.  My thoughts are with you today.  Take care.

Hugs,
Darla

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(4 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Dear Megan,

What a beautiful tribute to your mom.   I am so sorry for your loss.   Take some comfort in knowing that she will always be near you in your heart & memories.   Take care.

Hugs,
Darla

Dear Joe,

You have my deepest sympathy for the loss of your mother.   I'm am so glad that you as a family were able to spend Mother's Day and also her finally moment's with her.  There are no words to ease the pain you are feeling right now, but in time I am hoping for the pain of loss to ease and  good memories help to comfort you and your family.    She will always be with you in your heart and those memories.  Take care and know we are here to help and support you in any way that we can.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dear Ben,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  You and your family have my deepest sympathy.   Keep her with you now  and forever  in your heart and fond memories.  Take care.

Hugs,
Darla

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(6 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Tiah,

I too know how it feels and totally understand your need to grieve in your own way.  Thanks for being a part of our awesome, supportive community.   Hoping to hear from you some time in the future, when you are ready.

Hugs,
Darla

Gail,

Keep venting all you want and need to.  We do all understand and it does help to just get it all out.   I am so sorry that you and your family are going through all of this, but know that we are here to listen and to help and support you all in any way that we can.   You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.    I too hope that tomorrow will be a better day for all of you.

Hugs,
Darla

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(32 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Julie,

Glad you got some well need sleep and are feeling so much better today.   smile

Darla

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(32 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Julie,

Just came on and the first thing I saw was this.  What great news.  I am so happy for you.   Now you can relax and enjoy your weekend. 

Hugs,
Darla

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(32 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Julie,

Hope you managed to get at least a little sleep last night.  So glad your hubby is at your side.  Good luck with the scans today.  Thinking of you.

Hugs
Darla

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(32 replies, posted in General Discussion)

So true Julie and may I add that we never know how strong we are until being strong is the only choice we have.  smile   One day at a time dear Julie. 

Hugs,
Darla

Carole,

I agree with Marion on this.   It is time for the oncologist to stop avoiding and give you his honest opinion of what is going on and a time frame.  You both deserve to know what his prognosis is. 

The ascites  is generally a sign of end stage disease, but as Marion said the time frame is hard to define.  As you probably  already know from reading on this site, every case is different and there is no real way to put a time frame on things but the oncologist should be able to give you some idea of where his disease is at and what to expect.   The more you know the better it will help you to prepare for and understand what is going on.  I think you need to have an honest and open discussion with the oncologist and let him know that you want to know what is going on and what to expect.

Hoping you will be able to get some answers soon.  Please up date us as to how things are going when you can.  Take care.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dear Joe,

I am glad that you now have hospice involved.  It will be of great help and support to you.  I truly know how you are feeling.  My husband died at age 62 and we only dealt with this for 2 months, so I know all the things you are feeling.  Spending quality time with her as much as you can is all you can really do for her at this point.  I found this board shortly after Jim died and like you am so grateful for all the help and support I have gotten from everyone here.  No one can understand what it is like to deal with this awful disease other than those who have walk the same road.  I stay because I hope I am giving back some of what I have gotten.  I too pray that the day will come when this disease will be conquered.  I will keep you and your mom in my thoughts and prayers.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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(32 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Julie,

I like that quote and it is so true.  What is going to be will be no matter how anxious and stressed we do or don't get.  Unfortunately, it is easier said than done not to worry.  This may not work for you, but I read a lot and sometimes when I am stressed I try to bury myself in a good book.  Some days it works, some days not so much.  Fingers crossed that all goes well on Friday.  At least then you will know what you are or aren't dealing with and can work out a plan of attack if necessary. Take care dear Julie.  Thinking of you.

Hugs,
Darla

PS:  Sun is shining brightly here this morning and I hope it is shining on you too.  smile

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(32 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Julie,

I agree with the others.  Vent all you want & need to.  What better place to do it than here where we all understand and truly care.    Hoping all goes well and look forward to a positive up date.  As for the weather, a GRRRR from me  too.  This was the wettest April we have had in a long time and tonight there is a frost advisory.  This is May and I'm not liking this at all!  I want sunny skies and warm weather.

Hugs,
Darla

Lainy,

Your wit & wisdom will be greatly missed, but your decision is totally understandable.   Will look forward to hearing from you now & then when you check back in.   Wishing you the best.

Hugs,
Darla

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(51 replies, posted in Introductions!)

Gail,

Sorry to hear of this turn of events.  Yes, it is a roller coaster ride.   The  ride of your life and one none of us want to be on.   Thinking of you and hoping that a new plan can be put in place to get him back on the uphill slope.   Take care and update us as you can.

Hugs,
Darla

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(6 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Dear Randi,  I am greatly sadden to hear of the loss of your dear friend Nancy.   My heart and thoughts are with you, her family and all who loved and cared for her.  Take care dear Randi.

Hugs,
Darla

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(124 replies, posted in Introductions!)

Dear Tiah,

I am so sorry to learn that your mum has passed away.   It does sound like she passed peacefully and with your dad at her side.   I hope you can find some comfort knowing that.    For her the suffering is over.  In time your pain will slowly lessen.  We never forget, but it does get better with time and you will begin to heal and be able to take comfort in all the fond memories you have of your dear mum.  Thinking of you and your dad at this sad & trying time.

Hugs,
Darla

Amazing.  I agree with Marion.  We need to find a permanent place to put this on the site.

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(124 replies, posted in Introductions!)

Tiah,

So sorry to hear this.  On the positive side,  I'm glad that she is comfortable,  not in a lot of pain and is able to eat without getting nauseous.  Hope things go well with the gastroenterologist tomorrow.    My thoughts will be with you and your mum.

Hugs,
Darla

Dear Sandra,

I am so sorry for your loss of your mother.  You have my deepest sympathy. 

I agree with what Mary has said.  Everyone reacts differently to these situations.  Please try not to take it personally.  I found that many of the people I thought would be there for me were not and that there were others who did help & support me that were a welcome surprise and greatly appreciated.

It is what it is and we just have to try not to figure out why and deal with things as best we can.  You have every right to your feelings but don't let them affect you negatively.  I know, that is easier said than done.

Just take things one day at a time.  Again, I am sorry for your loss.  Try to take comfort in all the good memories you have of your mom and that she is no longer suffering from this awful disease.  Take care.

Hugs,
Darla

Dear Joe,

I am so sorry to hear all of this.  I agree with Marion.   It is normal that you feel as you do, but know that you are a good son and have done the best that you could do for mom under these circumstances.   Enjoy the day with your mom & family today.  These are memories you will cherish.  Thinking of you on this special day.

Hugs,
Darla

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(12 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Dear Anna,

Thank you for sharing with us.  So sorry for your loss.  You and your family have my deepest sympathy.  He sounds like a wonderful man and will be  missed by many.  Glad you have joined us and know we are here for you.

Hugs,
Darla