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(134 replies, posted in General Discussion)

A beautiful person, she touched a lot of hearts, and will be remembered always.  Thank you for taking care of her so well, Monkeybutt.  (who gave you that name?!)  Sorry.  I had a visual.

Hi Katie!  That is wonderful news.  Yay!!! (Picture us jumping up and down).

Marjo

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(7 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Okay.  I could barely type....the tears are in the way.  That was a beautiful letter from your heart.  Don't ever lose that connection.  That letter spoke volumes of what a great man your dad was.

Marjo

Amy....I am so sorry.  Know that we are all here.  Sitting, understanding, all extending a cyber arm to wrap around you...
said a prayer for your Mom.

Marjo

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(13 replies, posted in Grief Management)

Louise:  I am sorry for your loss.  I am glad, though, that it was peaceful and that your daughter was there with her.  My prayers are for you now.

Marjo

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(14 replies, posted in Members' Cafe)

Fingers are crossed for you, Lainy.  Good luck.  Tummy tuck?  I want someone like you next to me if/when I should get sick.    Is your M.D. and hospital far from your home?  Is someone there to take you to and fro?

Marjo

Lainy:  You do have a lot on your plate already.  Big time stress.  Take a moment to stop.....like I just did and I prayed for you in that moment.

Marjo

To Daddy's Girl:  How about if you hire a caregiver for your own place to take care of your Dad; and when/if he's asleep,  to clean and cook the special meals for him?  Then, you'll have more time to do your other things.  Whew, you've got a lot on your plate.  Good luck.

Marjo

Hi Stan:

I went through that with my parents.  Mom being sick and Dad too elderly and frail to do the necessary linen changes, etc.  I think he would have wanted either my sister or me to stay there 24/7.  As you know, this is hard even with us being retired.  There's cleaning up the place, cooking, changing and cleaning her up (shower, etc).  Then, there's doctor visits for both him and her. When it came to soiling her bed linen, it became too much.  Though I only lived a block away, I still went to bed dreading the ringing on my cell phone.  It was exhausting.  There was no time for quality time.

Maybe if you approach it to your Mom that the caregiver will do the things she can't do herself.  Like cleaning him up if he soils the linens, changes the bed, cleans the house up, cooks.  Then, she can just spend quality time with him.  She can take a quick break to go to the store.  Someone will always be there.  You will be able to go there after work and just spend time with your Dad, not run around doing all the other stuff.

Yes, we got someone to come in twice a day.  The caregiver was wonderful.

She knew when it was very close to the "time."  She came one day, and asked if she could say a prayer for my Mom.  The next day, Mom left us.

Yes, get a caregiver.

Marjo

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(10 replies, posted in Members' Cafe)

Thinking of him often.

Marjo

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(4 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Thank you.  It was very touching and wonderful.  The video was a gift of love and I appreciate very much your sharing it.  Sending loving thoughts to Jeff through my tears.

Marjo

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(12 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Jeff was a wonderful person.   Sorely missed.  Never to be forgotten.

Love to him and his family.

Marjo

Mon!  Great news.  You've given us hope again.

Lainy:  Beautifully said.

Marions:  You are right on!

Marjo in tears still.......

I am so sorry too.   We will miss his cyber-hellos, cyber-hugs and cyber-love.

Marjo

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(46 replies, posted in Blogs)

To the Gerrish family:

I am so sorry.  He was our Superman.  A wonderful person.  He touched many of us deep in our hearts.

Marjo

Hi Lisa:  Congratulations on the bureacracy working right and smoothly on your first try.  May more good stuff come your way!

Marjo

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(8 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Hi Carol:  I just finished watching the tribute.  It was absolutely lovely.  To have Charlie's photo next to the video, it looked as if he, too, were watching and smiling serenely at his life, his family, and the love shared.  Charlie was a year younger than my husband, and I had to chuckle at his teenage hairstyle.  It was the same!

Hang in there, Carol.  We're here for you.

Marjo

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(6 replies, posted in Blogs)

Carol:  Thank you for sharing Charlie with us.

Marjo

My mom had fevers also but they lasted on part of a day.  Despite the fact that she hated being cold, the doctors said we must take off the electric blanket and let her body cool down.  That and cold compresses (which she hated) brought her fever down rapidly.  No infection.

Marjo

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(46 replies, posted in Blogs)

Hi Rachel and Valerie:  I am sorry that your Dad has gotten weaker.  He's an outstanding person.  Helped a lot of people laugh, think and love.  All this via a website.  I can only imagine what he is capable of in person.  Please let him know again that a lot of people of this site are sending their best wishes and thoughts to him and you both.  I want to join Marion in holding the blanket of love around y'all too.

Marjo

Dear Jill:  Many good thoughts and prayers going to you and your family from me and I know a lot of other people.  Please remember to take a step back and take care of yourself too.  This is a very stressful time for you to be dealing with so much.  I know you have to do what you have to do, so continue to build your strength up.   Here's a cyber hug around your shoulders.

Marjo

Good to hear from you, LD.  Yes, do stay with us.  This site is so helpful.

and

Natasha:  I am sorry you are going through all this.....first your dad and now your mother.  You don't speak of any brothers and sisters than can help you?  My mom passed away about 3 years ago.  They never put a catheter in her, so we had diapers the whole time.  Also, she didn't have any BM problems.  It's been 3 weeks since your last post.  How are you doing?

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(18 replies, posted in Grief Management)

I, too, thought perhaps those 2 men were angels sent to watch over you.  They will probably leave when they know you are strong again.  If in doubt, the next time they appear in your dreams, instead of running away, approach them and ask "what is your message?"

Marjo

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(22 replies, posted in General Discussion)

A thought and a prayer and all the good vibes I could muster have been sent your way.

Marjo

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(10 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Lina:  I am sorry.  Please be sure to stay with us.  This site understands all too well.  Someone is always here for you.

Marjo