Thank you all for your responses.
As for the second opinion, we did get one and it was the same as the first. Her oncologist does seem hopeful but until we can get her strong enough, they can't start chemo. She did not want to do chemo at first but was talked into it...I wonder if that is why she isn't that concerned about getting stronger.
I know she is on the strongest anti nausea medication that is not IV but I forgot the name. My mom has always had a weak stomach and has been a picky eater. I live about 2000 miles from her and have been back and forth for the last 2 months. It is hard to leave and not know how things wil be when I come back.
We are just praying for her strength to return.