Thankfulness is the number one lesson learned from my mother's illness.  Thankfulness for time, memories, laughter, and family.  Thanksgiving 2007, I spent the day cooking my first Thanksgiving dinner for my uncle, brother, and mother.  We gathered in the living room where my mother's bed was, set the table there, and shared our meal.  It was quiet and left me feeling immensely grateful for the experience.  My mother lost her battle with cancer early the next morning and I couldn't help but think that Thanksgiving was the most appropriate time for this to happen.  Each year I find myself not being sad, instead, I feel my spirit fill with gratitude for the privilege of being part of her life.  This is the link to the slide show played at the celebration of her life.  I find it uplifting to reflect on her life and all of the happy moments captured in these photographs.  Please enjoy, and have a Happy Thanksgiving filled with your own moments of thankfulness.

Sarah, I completely understand where you are coming from.  Time being divided into "before mom was sick" and "after mom was sick" totally resonates with me.  In an instant the life you knew and expected is changed forever.  I think you are forced to mourn the loss of your hopes and wishes for the future.  After my mom died I was in a friends wedding and while the beautiful ceremony was going on all I could think was, I am never going to have this.  And I too often feel that others take their relationships for granted.  My hope is that I do not.  While my mother was here we made the most of the good days and bad days alike.  Hopefully having the support of others in your situation will help you feel less lonely.  I wish I had been looped into this resource when I was going through everything with my mom.


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Jemima, I used to wonder how I would survive without her.  I remember looking at her and trying to soak up every moment while I could.  Now, it is those moments that get me through.  The best thing we ever did was accept and continue living the best life we could while she was here.  You and your mother will be in my prayers.


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This is a blog I recently created to remember my mother who died from Cholagiocarcinoma in 2007.  I was her primary caregiver and found it difficult  taking on that role as a 22 year old, it felt very much like I was alone.  These are some of the memories that helped me get through then and continue to help me now that she is gone.  I hope someone else will find the humor and love in these memories helpful, uplifting, or if nothing else puts a smile on your face.