Hi all,

Last august my father was diagnosed with cc. After much prodding, discussions with his oncologist and a second opinion, we learnt that nothing can be done any more. The cancer has spread throughout the lymphnodes in his stomach and to his liver. They inserted a stent and he isn't jaundiced anymore, but fluids build up in his stomach every day and when they drain the fluid we can see there is bile in the fluid.
Initially we thought we still had time to do nice things with him, but I can't believe the rate with which he is deteriorating. My "bear-like" lost 30kg of weight, is utterly exhausted and won't take too much pain medication (fentanyl painpatches and temazepan for sleeping) because he wants to spend every minute awake and alert with us. He wants to stay in his own home, and his sister and brother in law have moved in with him to take care of him. As he can't even wash or dress himself, let alone cook a meal, they are a godsent.
I joined this forum because we live in the Netherlands and have very few cases of this type of cancer. I was wondering if you could help me with what else we can expect. I've read a lot of stories on this forum and you all have been through so much, I hope I can be as tough...

Best wishes to all,