(11 replies, posted in Introductions!)

Well I know it might be a little juvenile for an 8-year-old but I just watching an episode of "Arthur" with my son and it was on cancer. I thought it was nicely explained and hopeful. I looked it up and found it on You Tube. It's called : The Great MacGrady. It's in 3 parts. You may want to look at it and then decide if you want to show it to your daughter.

Hope it helps.


(20 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Very nice indeed. Very touching.


(25 replies, posted in General Discussion)

Dear Lainy,

I had tears in my eyes and shivers down my spine when I read your post. Just when you're thinking it's hard loosing someone you love, they have a way of reminding us that they are not lost at all. They're in a good place and can come to check in on us as they please. And I'm convinced that was what Teddy was doing. Welcome all these little sign from the great beyond (even if you start thinking you're imagining them - who cares, if it makes you feel better).

Glad to hear he came by to make you smile.


I don't know where exactly the stent was placed. The diagram the doctor had drawn for my mother showed the tumour being on one side of the bile duct, but that was mostly just to explain it. As soon as I know who she is seeing at St-Luc (which after a little research I found out is part of University of Montreal hospital center; made up of three hospitals), I'll let you guys know.

Thanks again,


Hi all,

Mom saw the oncologist today. He was even receptive to the idea of getting a second opinion (actually he seemed almost relieved as he said he did not know a lot about this cancer). He is sending her to St-Luc Hospital in Montreal (about 2 hours away from here) where they are doing cancer research and have a variety of clinical trial and the such. His proposition is that she sees someone there who will give their opinion on treatment and if the treatment options are available here, he will do them for her so she will not have to travel. She seemed very happy by this. Frankly, so am I. Even Dad (who has been taking all this even harder than Mom has) was optimistic to a certain extent. The doctor reminded her that is still stage 4 cancer and that we're just biding time, but I'm not ready to give up.

So I'm still going through all my information. Getting a headache from it. But I won't give in without a fight.

Thanks to all once again.


PS - In response to Gavin's question regarding the stent, it is a plastic one. They say it will eventually collapse under the pressure of the tumour.

Thank you all so much for your support and all the information. I called the Canadian Cancer Society yesterday, and they also were able to give me some info (about 30 pages worth, I've got a lot of reading to do). Mom will see the oncologist tomorrow and hopefully this time he will be a little more compassionate than when they received the diagnosis. When I talked to Mom this morning, I told her about this site and how much help was so readily offered and how much love I felt right away on here. When I go to her place on Friday, I told her I will show her the site and set her up if she wished.

I may be busy for a few days reading all my info and seeing what I can do to help Mom in her fight. But I will be back here as often as I can

Thank you all one again. Keep up the good fight.


Thank-you all for your words of encouragement. It is much appreciated.

I'm trying to find other doctors to get a 2nd opinion for Mom. She went to a nearby hospital to see someone in their cancer center, but was told that they can't take her as she lives in another province. I'm going to try to call the Canadian cancer society later today.

For now I'm heading to bed for a well-deserved nap. I have a 10-month old who is still not sleeping through the night and am taking care of my mother-in-law who is an Alzheimer's patient. Between all this and Mom, I think I'm allowed a mid-morning snooze.

Thanks once again to all of you,

Michelle (Shadow)

My little brother got married in October. Mom (who turned 60 10 days later) was feeling nauseous a lot and was generally itchy for a few weeks prior. She had a little pain in her back. She ignored everything, passing them off as nerves for the wedding, possible bladder infection and just general aches and pains of old age.

By the first week of November, she became jaundice. When she went to the clinic, she was sent to the hospital. They finally did a scan that revealed a 2-inch mass on the common bile duct. After installing a stent to open the duct, they tried without success to get a biopsy. A few days later (we are now mid-November), they went in on her side directly to CBD to get the biopsy. The ultrasound they used to direct them inside, revealed another mass the size of a small fist in the liver.

Last Monday, we finally got the results : the masses were malignant. Because of where the mass in her liver is located, removing the tumor is not an option. Nor is radiation as they fear it will be too hard on her liver. That leaves that other dreaded "C" word : chimo. Even with this, her prognosis is not good. Only a year.

Mom was going to retire from nursing later this month and hopefully travel cross-country next summer (a longtime dream of my parents). I'm hoping that they will realize this dream.

By writing this, I'm looking for information on doctors and cancer treatment centers way up here in Canada that might be a little more informed about this type of cancer.

I wish good luck to you all, patients and their families.