Wittrockj, I am so sorry for the pain that you are going through.  I do know how you feel.  My dad passed when I was 21, and then my mom passed from cc in 2009, I was 34.  I miss my parents every day.  I used to hate it after my dad died people would say, "time heals", but I have come to realize that they are correct.  It really is only time that will make you feel a little more at peace.  You will still miss your mom, but you will be able to think about the good times, and not just the pain.  Don't question how you are feeling, just go with your emotions, and know that there will come a time when you will feel better. 
Please know that we are here for you.
Amy

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ANP,  I am so very sorry for your loss.  My mom passed away September 2009.  She was my best friend.  It is hard to lose a parent and a dear friend  sad.  I understand EXACTLY what you mean about it being difficult to get the images out of your head.  I replayed her last few days over and over in my head for a while.  Please know that it does get better.  Those memories are almost completely gone, I can now think of so many good times we shared.  Sure, I miss her every day, but the pain does get better.

Please know we are here for you.

Amy

Chrissy, 
I have followed your story.  I am 36 and also have young children, 7 and 2.  I had Max, my 2 year old, two months after my mom passed away from cc.  While it is not the same as losing a spouse, I feel connected to you.  I am sure that life is so sad for you right now, and I am so very sorry.  I was pretty much an only child.  I have 2 brothers, but they were teenagers when I was born, and they got married when I was very young, so I grew up alone.  I didn't for one moment feel sad or lonely.  I loved having so much attention from my parents.  Your daughter is so lucky to have a wonderful mother who loves and cares for her so much.  What a blessing is it to have her to carry on your husband's legacy.  I am so very sorry for your loss.  We are here for you!

Amy

Ashley,

Your post really touched me.  I was in your shoes September 13, 2009.  My my, my best friend, left us.  It is so hard to explain the emotions.  I can remember feeling such comfort along with intense sadness.  I felt guilt feeling that way.  I didn't want to tell anyone that I in some way felt comfort with the fact that Mom was gone.  In my head it sounded awful.  Unless someone has been through what we have gone through, I don't think that they can understand.  I missed and still miss her more than I ever thought possible, but I am so glad that she isn't having to suffer anymore.  No more tests, no more waiting, no more roller coaster ride.  Please know that we are here for you.  This is a difficult journey, and it does help to go through it with others who have been in your shoes.  I am so sorry sad

Amy

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Hi Suzanne,  I live in Mooresville, Indiana.  We are neighbors.  My mom was diagnosed in October 2006.  She went to IU.  We had a great experience.  Her surgeon was Dr. Nakeeb.  Her oncologist was Dr. Romnee Clark.  Unfortunately, Mom passed away in September 2008.  But, please don't let that discourage you.  I remember how hard it was for me when Mom was fighting, and I would hear the stories of others who passed.  There are MANY survivors on the board!  I know that you are on an emotional roller coaster right now.  This is a touch journey.  I have two small children (7 and 1), so I know the journey takes a whole new road when you have little people who love their grandparents.  Please feel free to e mail me Aleaalexander@yahoo.com.
Amy

Sue, So happy to hear your good news!!!!!! Yea!! Amy

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Jacque,

Your post really touched me.  I could have written the same thing when hospice was coming to visit my mom.  My mom passed away September 2009.  This is the most difficult journey that anyone can ever imagine.  Please know that we are here for you.  There are no words to describe what you are feeling right now, but please know that we understand.

Love, Amy

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Dear DD,

I also want to tell you how sorry I am for your loss.  My mom died Septwmber 2009. She was my best friend also. She and I had always lived together. I lived with her, and after I got married she she sold her house and moved in with us. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about her or miss her, but I can also remember the fun times. Like Joyce said, try and surround yourself by people who loved your mom and who want to talk about her. I am very close to two of Mom's best friends, and it is so nice to spend time with them, because they loved her like I did.
Please know that we are here for you.
Amy

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Hans, Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I am also so sorry that you have had to go through the last few days alone. Please know that we are all here for you. Kris did so much to help all of us, now we can return the favor and do something for her by helping you.
Amy

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I first saw the news on facebook, and I must admit that I was completely shocked. I don't know why I was so shocked, but I was. Of course, it was obvious that Kris has been struggling a lot lately, but I just felt that she was gonna beat this. My heart is broken for her family. Kris and I were the same age, and I thought that was part of our connection, but after reading what everyone has to say about her, it is obvious we all had that connection with her because she was such a kind soul.
Amy

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Kim, I am so sorry :-((. I remember when I disconnected Mom's cell phone and her voice was gone, I was so sad! That was the point that it seemed so final. I am so sorry :-((.
Lainy, If I were you, I would cherish your message forever and ever!!!
Love, Amy

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Codegirl,

I am so sorry.  My mom died in September 2009.  My heart also breaks for you, because I know the pain that you are feeling.  It is impossible to prepare for how you are feeling.  We are here for you.

Love, Amy

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Kris, I will miss you so much.

Lainy,  Thinking about you, Teddy, and your family today.  Lots of love coming your way!!!!

Amy

Gavin,  The one year mark is hard, isn't it?  I am so sorry.  I feel for your mom also.  I know that when my dad passed away, it was hard for my mom because my brothers didn't acknowledge him much after he was gone.  I know that everyone grieves in their own way, but it is hard.

Katie, Mom passed away in September 2009, and now that we are past that one year mark it has been harder for me.  I miss Mom's voice, and the thought of never hearing it again breaks my heart. 

I am a believer, and know that I will see my parents again someday in heaven, and I know that should help me deal with the grief, but to be 100% honest, it doesn't help me too much on a day to day basis.  Does that sound selfish? 

So glad to have everyone here to talk to....

Amy

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(54 replies, posted in In Remembrance)

Oh Lainy,

You have always been there for all of us, now it is our turn to be here for you.  You and Teddy had such a wonderful marriage.  Your love was so evident.  I am praying for you and your family.

We all love you,
Amy

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Andie,
I definitely limited Mom's visitors. I figured if people hadn't been there to see her in the past couple of years, then hey didn't especially need to come in the last few days/weeks of her life. It was too hard on her, and too hard on me. She wasn't up to visiting much, so that left me to have to visit with them, and I wanted my focus to be her. This time is so precious, and your family needs to do what is best for you all.
Big hugs to you,
Amy

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Lainy,

Lots of prayers and comfort coming for you and Teddy today.  You are a lovely wife.

Amy

Lainy, You are such and inspiration to all of us.  Teddy is so lucky to have you.  Sounds like you are lucky to have each other!  I know that times are so difficult for you right now, but you seem so strong and have a wonderful attitude.  I think of you both daily. 
Lots of love, Amy

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Pam, Sending lots of love and strength your way.  Just yesterday I searched your name to see if there was any new news.  I know how difficult things have been.  Please take care of yourself.  We are all here for you.

Love, Amy

Oh Pam,

I know how hard this is.  Sending lots of strength and love your way.  We are all here for you.

Love, Amy

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(8 replies, posted in Grief Management)

Kimmie,

I could have written your post!  I know the heartache that you are feeling.  It is awful, isn't it????

My dad died in 1996, and I was amazed how many of my "friends" disappeared.  I know that they had no idea how I felt, because they had never been through what I just went through, and thank goodness for them, but I needed them, and they were NOT there.  Needless to say, I cut myself off from them.  I was 21 when he died, and I changed.  I became so guarded, and have never been the same.  I let very few people into my life.  Mom died Sept 2009, and I went through the same kind of thing, but this time more with my family.  When Dad died, I had my Mom, this time I had NO ONE.  I have a wonderful husband, who has stood by me through EVERYTHING, but that is about it. 

I wish that I could give you some helpful advice, but I don't have any sad.  I know that I hated to hear it, but time does help.  It does NOT completely heal your pain, but it does help a little.

I didn't mean to go on and on about myself, just wanted you to know that you and I feel very much alike!

Big hugs to you,
Amy

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Lainy,
I think about and pray for you and Teddy every day. You are such an inspiration.
Much love,
Amy

Oh Pam,
What a wonderful daughter you are. I am so sorry that you are on this difficult journey. I know how hard it is. My mom passed away last year. We are all here for you. Sending lots of hugs your way.
Amy

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Lainy,

Teddy is a wonderful man.  He is so lucky to have you in his life.  I have been thinking about you both so much.  I know that your heart is breaking, but you and Teddy both have such wonderful attitudes.


We are all here for you.
Lots of love,
Amy