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(13 replies, posted in Grief Management)

HELLO

EVERYONE,

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR POSTS, I FIND IT AS A RESPITE AND QUITE CALMING IN ALL THAT HAS GONE ON IN THE LAST YEAR.. I LOVE READING THE STORIES, I LOVE TO HEAR ABOUT THE 45 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, BUT WHAT DOES SOMEONE 45YRS OLD DO WHEN THERE YOUNGEST SON GRADUATES FROM HIGH SCHOOL AT THE SAME TIME OF THE HUSBANDS MISERABLE DEATH FROM THIS HORRIBLE DISEASE. AUGUST 25 2012 WILL BE ONE YEAR. EMPTY NEST AND WIDOW IN THE SAME YEAR...

I FEEL SO YOUNG AND SO OLD AT THE SAME TIME.  I NEVER EXPECTED TO BE A WIDOW, AND THE WAY THAT SOUNDS IS SO HORRIFYING AT A YOUNG AGE..

I MISS MY GREG SO MUCH, HAVING A HARD TIME MOVING ON, THE THOUGHT ABOUT EVEN DATING AND MAKING A NEW LIFE FOR MYSELF IS SO SCARY, BUT I DONT WANT TO BE ALONE AND I DONT  HAVE ANY IDEA HOW TO MOVE ON.. ANY SUGGESTIONS???
 
JILLY

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(16 replies, posted in Introductions!)

hey everyone,

Finally home from hospital, Greg, my husband had 7.7 liters of fluid drained from his abdomen.. they also told me that his cancer has spread in his liver as well as a left lower pnuemonia in his lung.  He is sooo weak.. I am hoping to see maybe some energy come back.. they talked to us about hospice.. this is all too much to take in.

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(16 replies, posted in Introductions!)

hey all-star,

Thanks for your response, I am so happy to hear that the chemo is working for you with little side effects.. we have not completely ruled it out.. but of course greg is so hesitant. I just read him your blog.  Tomorrow we are going to the hospital because the ascites is becoming painful for him. He is 9 months pregnant looking and having a hard time moving around and eating.. He has become soooo weak..  walking and getting of the toilet requires assitance..I am frightened seeing him in this state, I hope that this is only temporary, as he is laying in bed alll day.  This cancer sucks!

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(16 replies, posted in Introductions!)

Thanks for the responses everyone, I made an appt with oncologist today regarding the fluid..thanks lainy for the hospital advice, you all are a world of resources..

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(16 replies, posted in Introductions!)

Hey Katielinn,

We started out at md anderson orlando, we had a consult at um sylvester this past week to see if he was a surgical candidate, they said no, and the only thing that md anderson offered was chemo.. I would love to explore the option of chemo immobilization.. please email dr info if possible..

How is your mom doing??   I know its so hard for my children to see their dad in this condition.. I appreciate your kind words and thank you so much for the reply.. talk to you soon!

jill

Good Morning to all from Satellite Beach, Florida

Thank God for this website, I have learned so much in the past few days about this diagnosis.  My husband Greg, 58 years old, was diagnosed on June7th 2011. It was such a horrifying shock!  But I guess it is for everyone, Greg has been in a hospital once in his life, when he was born, and that's it.. Never been sick, and never took a prescription drug for anything..

We are deeply saddened, but not at all going to give up  until the fight is over.. He is refusing chemo right now,  and have chosen to use some radical alternative methods, I know its controversial, but those were his wishes.  it's a bummer but a year ago his best friend was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, started chemo and was expired within 6 weeks, soooo he's a little hesitant..he wants to be around for at least a little while.. He is becoming progressively weak, using a walker to ambulate, and has more weight than I care to mention.. he is not a surgical candidate, as the cancer is in all lobes of liver.  the lower extremities are swelling up like balloons and he is wearing ted hose to help.. and his abdomen is starting to become hard, he says he is full all the time and can only eat really small portions.  My nursing degree of 20 years never came in so handy.. however is blood work seems to be stable (other than the elevated liver enzymes)  How high can they go???? and vitals signs are perfect..

I am scared that he is declining so quickly, I am 44 years old, we have been married for 17 years and I am not ready to lose him yet..This website has made  me feel so much better knowing all the people who are going through the same events..

Well thank you all  for listening and look forward to getting in on some discussions.