Topic: Checking in

Hello everyone
It's been a while since my last post and 7 months since my husband passed away. Just wanted to check in and let you all know that we are ok. Hard to believe it's been that long! The boys are keeping me busy, as well as work. Still have bouts of sadness that come unexpectedly. Boys barely talk about their dad, which surprises me. Sometimes I ask them a question or 2, but they never initiate that subject.
Now that it's warm, my 15 years old has to mow the lawn, which he is not happy about. I had reminded him that my responsibilities had widened as well and that's just the way it has to be.
Wanted to mention something unusual. During my husband' funeral back in October, I had white balloons for kids to write their wishes for their dad and release those in the air. Surprisingly, my youngest said he didn't want to do it and wanted to keep those balloons. Well, here is unusual part - both balloons are still inflated - 7 months later! Smaller, but still intact. Little miracle!
Just wanted to share this experience!
Sincerely, Alla

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Alla.... we form  a tight, emotional bond on this site so when a posting comes in from a long lost friend, our hearts warm. So, thank you dear Alla. 
I much relate to your experiencing these bouts of sadness - with time it appears less often.   
My youngest son also did not like talking about his Dad - he said it hurt too much however; as time went on and now 7 years later, he has been able to work through it to some extent.  Father's Day might be a bit tough though.  I would make special day plans for us and thereby try to take off the edge a bit. My niece, who lost her Mom at a very young age, continues to wish me happy mother's day.  It makes her feel not so left out and I of course appreciate it.
Everyone finds their own way of dealing with it.  I agree on the inflated balloons - miracles do happen everyday. Please know that you are in our hearts forever.
Hugs,
Marion

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Hi Alla,

I love the bit about the balloons!  When my sister died, the day after her funeral we took her daughter who was 3 and various nieces and nephews to the cemetery.  The children hadn't come to the funeral so they were brought to the cemetery to see Mum/Aunty Nikki's special place.  They sprinkled stars over the grave and were to send balloons up to my sister.  I filled them all with helium but the only one that went up was the one her daughter released.  It kept going right up until it was out of sight.  The rest just lay around the cemetery blowing about.  Her daughters balloon was the important one and I believe was the only one to go up for a reason.

Clare

In the stars now . . . .

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Thank you, ladies, for your replies. What a beautiful story, Clare! Interesting, that most of our balloons got stuck in a trees above the grave and I was kind of upset about it. You gave me a different point of view, thank you!
Marion, I was thinking about this year Father's day and was even tempted to avoid celebration, afraid it might hurt them more and if I don't make a fuss about it - they might not even notice it...
Sadly, they pretty much ignored Mother's day, so they will not notice father's day if I don't say anything. Not sure, kind of torn about it now!