Topic: Depression

I am on 2nd round of Oxaliplatin & Xeloda.  Day # 6 of Xeloda.  I feel ok today but can't seem to get motivated to do anything.  It is so lonely sometimes.  My hubby goes to work & unless I call people or reach out not many friends reach out.  I have told them also that it is hard to be the one always asking for something.  It seems like out of sight, out of mind.  Since I quit working & stopped doing some of my regular things I feel very out of touch.  I try to not have my life be all about my cc. I get tired too fast to do much.  I sound like a total whiner, don't I.  I should be glad I am getting treatment to try & give me more time!!  I really hate this today.

Re: Depression

Patty: It is important to understand that your feelings are real and valid. Cancer affects your emotional health. Most patients, families, and caregivers face some degree of depression, anxiety, and fear when cancer becomes part of their lives. These feelings are normal responses to such a life-changing experience.
In people with cancer, these feelings may be caused by many things, including changes in how they are able to fill family or work roles. A person with cancer might feel the loss of control over life events, and have to deal with changes in body image. They might fear death, suffering, pain, or all the unknown things that lie ahead.
It’s important to remember that people can feel distress about these things at any time after being diagnosed with cancer, even many years after the cancer is treated. As their health situations change, people with cancer must cope with new stressors along with the old, and their feelings often change, too. For instance, people with advanced cancer may have more emotional distress than those with early-stage cancers.
People who have physical symptoms such as pain, nausea, or extreme tiredness (fatigue) also seem more likely to have emotional distress. Most of the time, physical symptoms can be controlled with medicines – but it could take more than one try to find the right drug or combination of drugs. This is one reason to stay in touch with your cancer care team, so that they can help you with these kinds of symptoms before you feel overwhelmed.
Physical activities, especially mild exercise such as daily walks might help improve your mood.  If things persist and/or become overwhelming, an appointment for mental health treatment might be advised.

I am thinking of you and sending tons of hugs your way,
Marion

THIS INFORMATION IS NOT INTENDED NOR IMPLIED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL MEDICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD ALWAYS SEEK THE ADVICE OF YOUR PHYSICIAN OR OTHER QUALIFIED HEALTH CARE PROVIDER

Re: Depression

Hey girl, I believe that you cannot help what you are going through and since I cannot be eloquent and knowledgeable like Marion, mind if I put my spin on it? There are times from Meds, I know I get down and I chalk it up to a little pity party that I guess I deserve once in a while. Friends? I posted about the couple that T grew up with and she asked a friend of my, "How is Lainy and all her ghosts". I say to all these people, Shame on them! They are not walking in our shoes. My address book is getting smaller but I am just with those now that count. What I can suggest is are there any groups at your place of worship that you can get involved with, easy things. Is there someplace you can volunteer just a couple of hours a week Perhaps an animal shelter. Do you have any hobbies? Above all if you are not feeling better like Marion said call one of your Medical team. Don't stress the small stuff and people who have turned away are small stuff. If you ever want to talk I would love to hear from you. 480 895-0974

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

Re: Depression

I know exactly how you feel! Cc was my main topic of conversation once I lst my job and didn't work... I try not to let it be anymore, but it's hard. And sometimes you feel so isolated!
I allow myself a mini pity party, and then mentally kick myself in the @$$.

KrisJ
"Don't just have minutes in the day; have moments in time."
Any opinions I give are based on personal experiences, and are not based on medical knowledge. I strongly suggest receiving medical care and opinions.

Re: Depression

Patti,

Sorry to hear you are feeling so down.  When I was not working and getting treatment I made sure that every 3rd week (once a month) I had a plan to get together with a friend, or travel to see a friend or family, or have plans with my husband to do something special.  I think it gave me permission to be a bump on a log when I needed it.  I also organized a once a month "Bunco" night with 11 of my friends from work so I could stay in touch during treatment and after.  It's been 4 years and we still do it once a month!

Just know that your feelings are normal and accept that you are going to have 'bad' days, but that you are also going to have good days too!  If you need to talk to someone about your depression, call a therapist.  Therapists are great, non-judgmental people to talk to about anything.  Also, if you are feeling really down, medication might be in order.  Some of the side effects of anti-depressions are sleepiness and increased appetite which for me was a plus during treatment!

Hang in there Pattimelt.  And I do not view your note as "whining'.  That is what we are here for smile

Hugs,
-Randi-

Survivor of cholangiocarcinoma (2009), thyroid cancer (1999), and breast cancer (1994).

My comments, suggestions, and opinions are based only on my personal experience as a cancer survivor. Please consult a physician for professional guidance.

Re: Depression

Bless you all !  I had a better day yesterday afternoon. We took a little drive up to see my son & daughter-in-law and 2 of our grandsons.  They always lift me up!!  Then came home & crashed & then 2 friends came over to watch football & have pizza.  It was good  to get out!  I am feeling so much better today & getting ready to go to church and reconnect with some friends & GOD!!  It is good to sing praises!  Even in the midst of troubles.  I do have a great cancer support group!  I have it all but still get in the pits & I dumped on you guys but knowing you are going through it too helps more than you know.  Actually you do know!!! 
The one thing I need to do is get out & walk more. 
Bless you all so much! 
Love,
Pattimelt (I will not melt today)!

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AW, Patti, you sound so much better today. I knew you were just pretending!!!
Let it drop on us anytime we all have broad shoulders. I know that the best RX are the Grandkids. Bless those munchkins! I was going to suggest walking but I forgot just like I forget to walk! Go Patti, Go.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

Re: Depression

Bless you, Patty!

Willow