Topic: My husband is gone

Hi Everyone
After 2 very difficult weeks and 2 very distressing days, my husband passed away at 5.20am yesterday 21 March 2014.
CC is a horrible, dusgustingly cruel cancer that has no mercy on it's victims.
My heart is breaking.  This has happened so quickly.  He was diagnosed 3 months ago.
We had plans to go into semi-retirment at the end of this year. Then we were going to travel around our beautiful country.  A couple of trips abroad where also in the plans.  So many things to do, places to see... and now, what do I do with my life now?  Half of me is gone. I have no plans, no ideas, no purpose.

Re: My husband is gone

So very sorry to hear about your husband Stella.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  Please come back here for support.  Unfortunately many have been through what you are currently experiencing and will have some wonderful supportive and helpful words for you.


Survivor of cholangiocarcinoma (2009), thyroid cancer (1999), and breast cancer (1994).

My comments, suggestions, and opinions are based only on my personal experience as a cancer survivor. Please consult a physician for professional guidance.

Re: My husband is gone kind to yourself, allow yourself to grieve for all that is lost. With time you will find your place in life again; one day at a time.
All my love,


Re: My husband is gone

Dear Stella,

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your dear husband.  I totally understand how you are feeling as I too lost my husband quickly to this awful disease.   There is no time frame to grieving and everyone needs to grieve in their own way and at their own pace.  Only time can begin to heal your heart and soul.  Try to take comfort in the fact that at least he is no longer suffering or in pain.  He is in a better place.  Keep him with you forever in your heart and memories.

Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad & trying time.

Love & Hugs,

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

Re: My husband is gone

Stella, I am so very sorry about your husband, I know he fought a good battle and now is at Peace. I know first hand that we keep doing and living on in time as that is what our husbands would want us to do. Perhaps down the road you will make your dream trips for the both of you.

If I should be the first to go,
And leave you alone, my Dear,
Let not your heart be lonely,
Nor in your eyes a tear.
Grieve not for me, my Darling,
I’ll not be far away,
With petals of love and tenderness,
I’ll pave for you the way.
To join me in our sanctuary,
And ne’er again we’ll part.
Grieve not for me, my Darling,
I live within your heart.
Take joy again in living,
As you did in years gone by;
God knows what of he’s doing,
And not be questioned why.
Grieve not for me, my Darling,
My life with you on earth
Each moment filled with happiness,
And love so few be worth.
I’ll be waiting for you Sweetheart
Where skys are ever blue,
With eager heart and open arms
Patiently, for you.
Grieve not for me, my Darling,
May faith and my love keep.
Your soul filled with contentment
Eternally, I sleep.                                 By Mary Harris

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

Re: My husband is gone

So sorry to hear of your husband's passing. What you all went through is so intense and one of the most intimate times. May you find the peace and courage to follow some if those retirement dreams that you and your dear husband had planned. Carry his spirit and good memories with you.
With my sincere condolences, Willow


Re: My husband is gone

Dear Stella,

I am so very sorry indeed to hear of the passing of your husband. Please accept my sincere condolences. I so wish that right now there was something that I could say that would help ease the pain that you feel. Please know that we are all here for you and my thoughts are with you and your family right now.



Any advice or comments I give are based on personal experiences and knowledge and are my opinions only, they are not to be substituted for professional medical advice. Please seek professional advice from a qualified doctor or medical professional.

Re: My husband is gone

Stella I too would like to express my condolences.  I am very sorry for the loss of your husband.  May he be at rest and no longer suffering.  Sending you many hugs and strength to get through this difficult time.  Blessings.

Hope, love, strength...2013 and for the years to come, Porter.

Re: My husband is gone

I am so sorry for your loss. I just lost my husband on the 19th to this horrible cancer.
I keep reminding myself he is no longer suffering and is now happy and healthy again.
Sending lots of hugs and prayers your way.

Re: My husband is gone

Dear Stella,

I am so sorry that your husband has passed.  Three months is no time to begin to get to grips with this disease let alone to have him taken from you. 



In the stars now . . . .