Topic: Hopeful

We have just had the first result back of the scan following 3 months of chemo on Gem Cis. My sisters lymph glands look to have reduced in size. This has given us tremendous hope as the oncologist did not anticipte this. We all just want the chemo to go on doing it's job and hope that all her hard work and the pain she is going through will keep her well in the end.

Keep your fingers crossed for us!

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Yay - congrats on the good news - and may it keep coming!
-Joyce

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I hope the chemo continues to work. Now you and your sister take a break soon and enjoy being family and not just cc patient and carer!

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope

4 (edited by Janecw Sat, 01 Mar 2008 16:28:59)

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Thank you for your messages it is funny in a way but I get some sort of relief from response to my posts. Sometimes I feel my sister doesn't tell me the whole truth and I feel that is her right but in a way that makes me worry all the more. From the moment she was diagnosed I would do anything to change it. I have three young children who quite obviously don't know their Auntie is ill and they all love her so much and as childen are think she will be here for ever.

I don't feel I am the carer I should be, we live quite far away from each other and this prevents me seeing her and helping her as frequently as I would like. My children go to school, I go to work every day yet I know she is suffering and I should be there. What is the answer? I dont know, I continue to do the things with my children like I always have yet things are not the same as they once where. We have all changed , we of course have had fantastic news and I so want this to be the start of things to come.

My sister: although we fought as children has been the one that will support, advise me (she is so more educated than me) I was always the naughty one or at least the one that always got caught!  She looked out for me at school and made sure I was ok and I was so proud she was my big sis.

I take her advice on work issues and all other matters and although I don't always agree deep down I know she is wise and I'm a bit of a fool, (I've never admitted that!)

I just want her to be ok and I now want to look after her!

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Jane, your last post was so sweet I can feel your love for your sister.  I am my husband's caregiver but my sister is my support.  She is always there for me doing things before I even think to ask---stocking groceries, changing lightbulbs, doing laundry, etc. etc. etc.  She stays with my husband to give me a break and is the only person I would trust to care for him.

There is something special about a sister.  We expect to lose our parents some day.  We expect to have man troubles along the way.  But we always expect to have our sibling(s) to grow old with.

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Jane,
I too am the "naughty" sister. It is more fun!!! I loved your post, it is exactly how I feel about my sister.

My mom is very closed mouthed about things and when she had a breast cancer scare, I went with her to the appointment when she got the results only because I dont trust her to tell me everything. I am glad it all came back negative. Maybe you could go to an appointment with her-she might appreciate the support and you will get the information first hand.

Kris

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope

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Thanks Jillie thanks Kris, I appreciate your posts. I hate that your are both suffering. Yet in all of this you take the time to consider feelings and pain of others you are truely fantastic people.

I have never been one to pray but the other night I taught my 5 year old daughter,  Lara a prayer that I knew as a child. She repeated it after me and especially blessed her Auntie Caroline, she will bless you both too I promise!

8 (edited by JeffG Fri, 07 Mar 2008 20:58:20)

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Jane,  You have a caring and loving heart.  It's sad when your feelings and desires are being torn apart.  I'm sure you will support your sister in the best possible way there is.  Just a call or a letter expressing your love, care and support will be a good start.  Sometimes distance keeps us apart from those we love and want to help through rough times.  That has happened to me once and I'm afraid it will happen again.  Many times I wish I could have been somewhere else but unfortunately the reality of responsibilities prevent that from happening at times.  I'm sure your sister full of wisdom understands.  After all she is your big sister.  She knows your situation and responsibilities.  Lets roll on the positive side with the good news and believe in hope and keep teaching your little girl Lara some new prayers. A prayer headed your sister's way.

God Bless,
Jeff G.

Take it to the Limit,One More Time! (Eagles)

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Thanks Jeff, I will. Caroline is full of high spirits at the moment we are doing the race for life in June this year, her idea. It is for cancer research uk. Caroline works for cancer research so she knows how important it is to research in to the more uncommon cancers like this, as they don't get the research they should.

We have to beat this cancer and all cancers, I know we will and I can't give up

Jane x

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Good luck at the race for life. Which city will you be running in?

Kris

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope

11 (edited by Janecw Tue, 11 Mar 2008 16:02:58)

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Hi Kris, Caroline me and some close friends are doing the race for life in Tatton Park Cheshire on the 22 June. Caroline has bought a running machine and has started training she is still on chemo but determined as ever. I can't believe my sponsors so far, down to my husband really he works abroad and nearly all are from his contacts. I can't believe how many caring people there are it certainly restores faith.

Link is: www.raceforlifesponsorme.org/janewebster1

I hope all money raised helps us all in some way xx