Topic: Still can't believe he's gone

It's been almost 2 months.  My husband fought and lost such a fast and furious battle with cholangial carcinoma that it took my breath away.  With no symptoms, a doctor stumbled across a tumor in his liver.  After a liver resection the surgeon and the oncologist told us there was reason to be "guardedly optimistic".  I still don't know what that meant, nor did I understand how aggressive and truly devistating this cancer really was.  My husband Stephen was 51 years old, very health conscious, and in great shape.  We had been married 5 years and have a 4 year old son. 

I feel we did all we could, but I don't believe my husband ever had a chance.

Stephen, Destin and I miss you every day.  We miss you in this house you built for us, and on every sunny day when Destin rides his bike alongside the beach.  We miss you every morning when we pass your truck on the curb or look at the pictures we mounted for the funeral home for your wake. 

Please rest in peace, my dear Stephen.   I pray that Destin's memories of his beloved daddy stay vivid in his mind.

Hugs and kisses,

mary

Re: Still can't believe he's gone

Dear Mary,

My heartfelt sympathies to you and your son.  I think the hardest issue with this terrible disease is the lack of symptoms.  There is a small ache or pain and WHAM next thing you know is you are battling for all you are worth.  I will keep you both in my prayers to ask for help to ease your grieving and to remember all the wonderful times you had together as a family.

Karen

Wishing all God's blessings!

3 (edited by JeffG Tue, 20 May 2008 12:25:51)

Re: Still can't believe he's gone

Mary and Destin,  My sincere condolences on the lost of a loving and caring husband and Daddy.  May God give you the strength.
God Bless,
Jeff G.

Take it to the Limit,One More Time! (Eagles)

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I'm so sorry Mary.  I pray for strength for you and Destin and comfort in the days ahead.  Take care of yourself.

Carol

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Dear Mary and Destin
My heart aches and tears flow for you both.

The pain in your heart I know is unbearable and the tears will flow.
I do hope  one day that the love you both shared will ease your grief and the joy of life through your son will keep you ever near to stephen.
love and light Alan's mom

U.K.Member

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A POEM FOR DESTIN & HIS FAMILY

Happy little angels
Layed down their harps one day,
'Cause word arrived that Daddy
Was coming up to stay.

Now all the little angels
And all the big ones too
Remembered how they'd watched on earth
Things that daddy'd do.

So they did didn't get the rocker,
Nor his slipper soft and gray,
But gathered all the stars that shine
In the Milky Way.

Some of them were tarnished
And needed to be brushed,
And some were softly weeping
And needed to be hushed.

Many a little angel
Had tales he could tell
Of the many little hurts
That somehow daddy made well.

God gave him lots of patience
And extra energy,
That all his days on earth
He'd serve his family.

So all the little angels
That had things to be done
Clustered all around the daddy
On his celestial throne.

And daddy's eyes were smiling
And his eyes were full of mirth
For he knew he'd be as happy
In HEAVEN as he was on EARTH.

My thoughts are with your family.....Lainy

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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So sorry to hear for another wonderful person and loving Dad having to join the ones we have lost to this cancer.  Another star is blinking at us at night.  I so much am hoping for your hearts to heal...one day at a time. 
My deepest condolences,
Marions

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Re: Still can't believe he's gone

thank you.  I stll feel like I don't know much about this terrible cancer, all I know is that it took my husband so quickly it's frightening.

one day at a time is all I can do...

Best wishes,

Mary