Topic: My father, my friend, my hero

I started out his uology this way. My father Warren passed away June7th, 2008. I miss him so very much. It is so hard to describe. I feel as if the pain is getting worse...not better. Shortly after his death, Father's Day came. The everyday reminders of him are very, very painful. My father bravely battled this ugly cancer for 15 months. He went through 3 chemoembolizations, 10 stent replacements, and never once complained about this hardship of this. He suffered with pain until the end and in my heart, I believe that he sugar-coated his pain so that his family would not suffer emotionally. He waited up until his last legs could not longer stand, and continued to have hope that Dr. Canady would be able to perform surgery on him. He did not want to die! This is so unfair...a man that gave his entire life to help other people. He helped his mother die of cancer in her home so that she would not have to die in a hospital...he helped his elderly neighbor die of cancer in his home when his own son never came around. He took care of his mentally challenged brother all of our lives so that his brother would not have to live in a group home...why him?  Maybe I have hit the angry stage. I feel numb, empty, alone.
I will miss him until the day I die.
Lana

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Lana..... I'm so sorry your father never got the chance for surgery. I'm sorry for your lost.  You were there Lana and did all possibly human to help your father.  I agree with you, it seems that the individuals who have given and contributed so much to helping others, leave before their time.  A life time of unconditional love and in return cancer... so hard to understand.  It's okay to feel angry Lana and yes the grieving will leave you feeling numb , empty, and alone for a while.  Take the time you need Lana but remember your Father loved you as well and and surely wants you to be as strong as you possibly can and and be happy.  Yes you will miss him but you will also cherish and remember those times when he made you smile.  Lana ,I know you fought this battle all the way right along side your father.  Please don't feel any guilt as you know the control was not in your hands.  You have been a loving and supportive daughter.  It makes me feel so good and proud to know you have inherited your Father's trait of giving and helping others.  Lana, that is pure love straight from the heart.  There is no doubt your father was proud and thankful.  May God give you strength Lana. Vent anytime you wish!
God Bless,
Jeff G.

Take it to the Limit,One More Time! (Eagles)

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Dear Jeff.
Thank God for you, this web site, and all the members on this site. You are my extended family. You know just the right thing to say to people to help lessen the pain. Thank you so much for being there for me, and everyone else on this site. Your reward will await you someday in heaven...but hopefully not for a very long time. We need you!
Sincerely,
Lana

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Lana - I truly believe that there are angels here on earth that administer to others when they need it.   I think your  Father was one . . . take peace in that and know that he did everything he could for others.   That is a wonderful blessing.
Betty

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Dear Lana -- what an extraordinary person, your father!  We're all blessed to know what a giving man he was, to his family, his friends, his neighbors, and most importantly, to you.   

And to you Lana, what a loving person you are.  You ARE your father's daughter!
Bless you,
DianeC

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Lana,

Your Father must have been a wonderful person. I hope you will take comfort in the fact that there will be a special place for him in heaven.  May God bless you and bring you comfort in your time of sorrow.

Joyce

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Dear Lana,

So very sorry to learn of your father's passing.  Sounds like he was a wonderful person, so giving, so loving.  And you have been a fantastic daughter, there for him in these long months of this dreadful disease.  I am sorry he never received the surgery from Dr. Canady.  I had kept praying that he would.  Take care of yourself Lana.  You are not alone...we are all holding hands against this disease. 
Karen

Wishing all God's blessings!

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Dear Lana, whatever you feel - anger, frustration - all of your feelings are yours and valid.  Express them to us anytime!  I'm so so sorry about your Dad. What a wonderful daughter you are - don't doubt that.  I pray for God's comfort and to put His loving arms around you in your time of grief.

Carol

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Dear Lana,
I had followed your journey with this cancer from the beginning of your postings while hoping and wishing for you father's surgery to be successful.  My heart goes out to you.  Many times I have heard the comment:  why does cancer take only the good people?  I don't believe that it does as I believe for cancer to take people - good or bad -.  I do believe however, that it is those people who are good  that leave behind the the greates void in the life's of others.
So sorry for your father having to join our loved ones.
Hoping for your heart to be healing...one day at a time...
Hugs
Marions

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Lana,
I know the pain you are going through and words cannot heal your sorrow, but I offer my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. Your father has impressed all of us through your words, and we didn't even know him.  His legacy will live on.
I wish you peace,
Joyce