Topic: My Mother Diagnosed 2 months ago

Hi everyone

My Mother was diagnosed with CC early May this year.  She was able to have surgery to remove the tumour but during surgery further cancer deposits were located in her abdominal tissue.

Since the surgery I think she had all of a week feeling well, but has gone downhill very quickly and now is unable to eat.  If she does manage to eat a few small bites she ends up vomiting within 2-4 hours. 

Sadly now she refuses to eat and is getting very angry with anyone who tries to encourage her to try some food.  She is also not taking her medication at times, and seems to have completely lost her will.

My Father is caring for her almost 24/7 now, as she rarely leaves her bed.  Dad has said that she has unfortunately had a few 'accidents' in bed and this I believe to mean that she is seriously unwell as this is so unlike my Mum.  She is refusing visitors, and has been very snappy and grumpy towards Dad.

I'm terribly frightened by what is happening to her, I live in Australia and my parents are in New Zealand so I don't know what is happening day to day.  I was over to see her just prior to the surgery but I have very little money although I wish I could go over more often.   A nurse and a hospice worker visit Mum nearly every day to help care for her and to assist Dad wherever possible.

It's been under 2 months since Mum's initial diagnosis, and I'm shocked her health has declined so rapidly.  Mum is 64.

Thanks for reading, sometimes it helps just to write things down.

Re: My Mother Diagnosed 2 months ago

Dear Lisa,
My heart aches for you - your mother's situation sounds just like mine. Mom was also 64 and died two months after diagnosis. Please don't feel so guilty that you can't be there - I'm sure you're trying your hardest, and a mother always understands and loves you, no matter what.

As for your mother's irritability, it may be a combination of depression (understandable!), medication side effects (underuse or overuse or just a bad reaction), and/or the cancer itself. I've heard that cancer can sometimes cause erratic and hostile behavior and moods - my father had it with brain cancer, but I've heard it can happen with any cancer but I forget the reason why.
I just wanted to say I feel for you and wish you and your mother the best. Feel free to vent here as often as you want (I know I've done it a lot!) You will find only support and compassion from this board.

All hopeful thoughts going your way,


Re: My Mother Diagnosed 2 months ago

Thank you Joyce, it helps to know others understand.

Re: My Mother Diagnosed 2 months ago

Hi all

Well an update to my post in July, sadly Mum passed away early August.  Although she did improve slightly for a week or so the cancer was just too aggressive and she lost her battle.  It was a total shock that within 3 months of her diagnosis she was gone, but we found out that the cancer had spread to quite a few organs so it sounded like she didn't really have a chance.

Just wanted to say thanks for the help this website gave me, and to those of you affected by this disease I pray for you and your families.

Re: My Mother Diagnosed 2 months ago

Dear Lisa,
I am so sorry to hear about your mother. May she rest in peace, and may you and your family find some peace in her memory.
Joyce M

Re: My Mother Diagnosed 2 months ago

Dear Lisa,
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family on the passing of your Mum.  Her suffering is over and she is in the Lord's hands.  Prayers....

Wishing all God's blessings!

Re: My Mother Diagnosed 2 months ago

Dear Lisa....I am so very sorry to hear of your Mom's passing.  Please, accept my deepest sympathy.   


Re: My Mother Diagnosed 2 months ago

Lisa, Just know that you are in my prayers.  I pray that you get strength to get through this difficult time.  God Bless

Re: My Mother Diagnosed 2 months ago

I am so sorry for your loss and I will keep you in my prayers.


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