Topic: Mum was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago

Hello everyone,

My mum (52) was diagnosed with unresectable CC about 3 weeks ago. She had turned yellow, that's why she went to the doctor and why the made a scan.
Since then she has had to procedures to insert 2 stents (metallic), to help with the draining of the bile.
She has one metastasis in the liver.
She started chemo yesterday (Oxaliplatin), I have no idea if it will work.
I am having a lot of trouble coping with this, so I guess this is why I am here. I tyr to be strong in front of her but when I get home I just can't help it, I feel sad and scared. I'm having a lot of trouble accepting it and can't get it out of my head. Prognosis doesn't seem to be great with this disease and I can't get it through my head that she won't be here for as long as I thought she would. She's the best mum ever.
Anyways, I have read a few of the postings and it's helping, so I hope this will make me feel better.

Thanks

Mercedes

2 (edited by JeffG Fri, 15 Aug 2008 14:59:38)

Re: Mum was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago

Dear Meredes....I'm so sorry your Mom has been diagnosed with this ruthless disease.  Mercedes your feelings and having trouble coping with this situation is very understandable. Prognosis with CC has hardly ever been classified with the adjuctive of great.  It's okay to feel sad and scared and it's okay to feel down right angry as well.  Don't stuff those emotions, make sure you have an outlet and talk with someone.  Mercedes, I have been living this partial normal life for about 9 and half years.  One day I'll be rid if this cancer, one way or another, but up to this point and time, I've chosen to be a fighter and strongly advocate " Hope".  Mercedes, there are novel Ideas popping out of everywhere, from all different areas in the world.  Support your Mum the best you can girl.  Try and keep her spirit and yours as high as possible. Do you have help with your Mum?  I surely hope so.  Please feel free to jump in and ask questions or just type until you feel better.  Plenty of members  with first hand experience can be found here and the best part is, they are willing to share with you and your Mum.  I hope and pray her chemo treatment is tolerable for her.  Research this site for other possible types of treatment.

God Bless,
Jeff G.

Take it to the Limit,One More Time! (Eagles)

Re: Mum was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago

We are glad you found us but sorry you had to. What you are going through is absolutely normal. Soon the scared part will leave and you will begin to fight, fight, fight for your mum. You will find the strength within you to become strong for her and there is nothing wrong in getting in your car for a short ride and having a few screams. As the caretaker you must stay strong and positive. I found out with my husband that if I let down in front of him he felt he failed me.
That was the worst for him. Let others help you, they really want to. You might want to go back and read some of the posts on this sight along with reading all you can about this disease. There are a ton of brave warriors here and the more you get to know them whether they are patients or caretakers, is to admire them to the fullest. I am totally in awe of these good people. Good luck and keep us posted.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

Re: Mum was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago

Hi Mercedes. Very sorry you had to come to this forum. I recognize all the feelings you have, since my husband was diagnosed with CC a year ago. And I am still scared and sad at times. But there is also hope. When surgery was broken off because the cancer had gone too far, Peter went home with a life prediction of 2-3 months (this was in May 2007). First we cried, than we started fighting back. Peter went back to work and started playing squash and running again, as he always had done. We started eating a lot healthier and are since one month ago on an anti-cancer diet, following the book Anticancer from Dr. David Servan-Schreiber. Since the news about Peters illness is out, we are embraced by the warmth of family, friends and collegues and that is a very special and rich feeling. We are 1,5 years later now and Peter still is very well and energetic. We are enjoying every day as a gift. Monday we shall have the first blood results after starting this new eating pattern. I will let this forum know how they are.
So I can recommend you: let your feelings out, but also keep having hope and fighting spirit. I wish you all the strength in the world and sincerely hope your mother will have a good time left!
Iris.

Re: Mum was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago

Hello again,
Thank you so much for your comforting words. It is so nice not too feel like you are the only people going through such an ordeal.
I've been feeling much better these past few days, I think I've come to accept the battle that has been put in front of me.
During the next few weeks, some of my family is coming. See, we are guatemalans but we live in Switzerland and of course all my family is still over there. I can't wait for them to come!
Mum had her first treatment on Thursday and is looking great. No side effects yet. But I suppose this will change in time?
I think I want to try and get her this book about this Anti cancer diet, I guess we have to try everything.
I am not alone, Mum remarried a few years back, but I feel like my stepdad and brother don't realize the gravity of the situation, or maybe they're men and can't express it the same  way.
I will keep you posted on Mum's progress. I hope all continues to go well for you guys.
I am very happy to have found this site, I feel like I have found support.

Thanks again,

Mercedes

6 (edited by JeffG Sat, 16 Aug 2008 10:05:21)

Re: Mum was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago

Mercedes... If your happy we are happy.  If your sad we are sad. That's what support and loving thy neighbor is all about; even if your across the world.  Hope you really enjoy and have quality time with your family when they come to see you.  Your stepdad and brother do care; It's like you said some men don't show their full emotions openly.  I use to be that way because my father held all in as well. But now I just tell it like I feel it.  It is so healthy not to suppress your emotions, let it flow.

Bless Ya!
Jeff G.

Take it to the Limit,One More Time! (Eagles)