Topic: Family not sure what to do
My Aunt Pat was doing well until 10 days ago when she developed fluid in her lungs. She was sent to the hospital from the nursing home, and they drained her lungs twice, then decided to send her to a Hospice facility. They are giving her comfort care only, and she will not eat or drink anything.
First, I want to let you know that she lives alone, has no children, and her nearest relatives (my 2 brothers, sister, and I) are 1000 miles away. We have all visited her in the last few weeks and spent quality time with her and she has friends who visit her. Now we don't know what to do. My Aunt Pat has dementia and doesn't understand why she can't get out of bed or why she is not home. She sleeps most of the time.
My question is: Does she need one of us to be there with her? Or can we trust that she is getting the care she needs? I read the post about feeling like "crying wolf" and telling the children to come from great distances, only to have the patient rally, which by the way, is a good thing for the patient.
I hope this doesn't sound selfish or indifferent. I have a family and a job, and will have to make a trip there to take care of her personal assets once she is no longer with us. I want to do what is best for her without jeapordizing my job.
Also, I dread watching my Aunt Pat going through the process of dying. I've never done that before and it upsets me. I feel sad and worried much of the time.