Topic: confused husband
Hi, my name is Dave. My wife was diagnosed with cc last month and just started on gemzar and xeloda this week. I am confused because the doctor said that there is nothing they can do but buy her time. She has multiple tumors the size of grapes all over her liver and is inoperable. her bile ducts are shot and she throws up a lot of bile evry couple of days, but She has no mets. Why I am so confused is he says she will pobably die within 6 months. then he says that if she responds to the chemo and the tumors shrink "who knows, maybe years" but then he says that a lot of people don't respond though. Then I have read on here that people had their tumors shrink, but passed away anyway, or that people didn't even do treatment and lived for years. I don't know what to expect and my wife goes back and forth from living for years and getting ready to die. Can someone give me a reasonable expectation or is this disease that unpredictable? The doctor says she is gonna die in the next couple of years, it just depends on how long. She is only 53 with no prior history of anything. She hadn't even going to the doctor for anything her whole life. I am trying to get my head wrapped around this thing. Do we just figure she is gonna make it and live like that?