Topic: Good Email: I wish you enough

Recently I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure.

Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said, 'I love you and I wish you enough'.

The daughter replied, 'Mom, our life together has been more than enough.  Your love is all I ever needed.  I wish you enough, too, Mom'.

They kissed and the daughter left. The mother walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking,  'Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?'.

Yes, I have,' I replied. 'Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?'.

'I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is - the next trip back will be for my funeral,' she said.

'When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, 'I wish you enough'. May I ask what that means?'.

She began to smile. 'That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone'. She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail and she smiled even more.  'When we said , 'I wish you enough', we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them'.  Then turning toward me, she shared the following as if she were reciting it from memory

I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.

I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.

She then began to cry and walked away.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them but then an entire life to forget them.

Re: Good Email: I wish you enough

This made the tears come!  This is such a great way to say goodbye.  It's especially poignant to me in that my new son-in-law will deploy on Sunday back to Iraq.  I intend to type the message and give it to my daughter and him tonight.  They've only been married since December 20th 2008.  We moved their wedding up a year so that my Mom who has CC would be at her granddaughter's wedding.  My Mom was able to be there and continues to do well with her Stage IV diagnosis.

Thanks so much for this beautiful email!

Hugs to you!

Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

Re: Good Email: I wish you enough

Pam,
You are right, that was a great , poignant way to say goodbye. I wish your son in law a safe deployment and speedy homecoming. My son just returned from his second year+ deployment to Iraq and hopefully his last. His entire unit returned home without a single incident and they were out on convoys constantly so I am sure your son in law will be fine and home before you know it!! Take care, Mary

Re: Good Email: I wish you enough

Oh this is beautiful. Yep the tears are falling here like the snow is outside.


Thank you for such a wonferdul post.

Blessings
Carolyn