your message really touched me. We live in Montreal (speak French son my English may sound strange sometimes). My husband was diagnosed with cc in November and the surgeon thought it was resecable. On the operation day, They found out that it had spread and told us his life expectancy was for weeks, months at the best. My husband (64) is hardly coming out of bed, not eating at all, and is starting to be confused and hallucinating. The end is near. Like you, everyone kept saying that we should cherish every moment. This really got me mad, as there are no good moments seeing your loved one (married 35 years) really weakening a bit more every day and dealing with the drains, the loss of appetite, the medecine, etc. you know ! So I agree with you, it is awful.