Topic: help for mom
I ran across this website seeking information and knowledge to help my mom who was diagniosed in January, 09. The doctors are saying that there is nothing else that they can do for her but offer pallative care. She is 73 years old and has so many other health issues that she is not a candidate for surgery. After 5 attempts to get the stents in, 2 diabetic commas, and coded on the table after the 4th attempt, my mom is now at an inpatient hospice facility where they are saying she is stabalized and they want to move her to a nursing home where she can continue to get around the clock care.
Because things were happening one right after another and my mom being in and out of the hospital, with me being her main care giver, I am just having time to research all of this. I have so many questions! While I so believe the doctors that my mom does have cancer, I do not believe the length of time they have given her to live. She has a desire to live a normal life. Prior to January of this year, my mom was very active. She was going out feeding the homeless and various other things. Now she is where she wants to go to the restroom on her own mentally but physically she can not. The hard part for me is determining if she can't because of the caner or because of the drugs they have her on.
I am so confussed when it comes to making the right decisions for my mom. Because she has been through one thing after the other, I feel like if she just had time to allow her body to recover then she would be better physically and can have a better quality of life. However, I don't want her to be in pain and not get the pain medicine she needs. I don't really know what to do for her. I love her too much to see her suffer but I also don't want them killing her off before it is time for her to go. I have been praying for wisdom to make the right decisions.
If anyone has any suggestions or experience that they think would help me, I would love to hear from you.