Topic: Back to the tears

Just when I think I am okay, feeling more normal, 6 things happen and it shakes loose all sorts of emotions.  Today, I was about to get out of the car and a song broke my broken heart.  How can that be, I am out of tears and healing, mostly?  Life is a fascinating thing.   

Well hello back at you Mom.  I feel your presence each and every day. 

This is the one that got me this time:

Nick of Time by Bonnie Raitt (never knew who sang it)

A friend of mine she cries at night and she calls me on the phone
Sees babies everywhere she goes and she wants one of her own
She's waited long enough she says and, she still he can't decide
Pretty soon she'll have to choose and it tears her up inside
She is scared
Scared she'll run out of time

I see my folks are getting on and I watch their bodies change
I know they see the same in me and it makes us both feel strange
No matter how you tell yourself, it's what we all go through
Those lines are pretty hard to take when they're starin' back at you
Scared to run out of time

When did the choices get so hard, there's so much more at stake
Life gets mighty precious
When there's less of it to waste
Ooh ooh ooh ooh
Scared to run out of time

Just when I thought I'd had enough and all my tears were shed
No promise left unbroken, there were no painful words unsaid
You came along and showed me how to leave it all behind
You opened up my heart again and then much to my surprise
I found love, baby, love in in the nick of time
(Love in the nick of time)
I found love, darlin', love in the nick of time
I found love baby, love in the nick of time

Re: Back to the tears

Dear ljg,

When we called in Hospice for my Mom I was reading an article about grief.  The best line in the pamphet was this....

"GRIEF IS NOT AN EVENT...IT'S A PROCESS." 

I also read that grief is something that is as natural as scratching an itch or rubbing your eyes.  It's our body's way of dealing with the stress and pain of losing someone we love.  It's personalized and individualized for everyone.  We have to follow the process.  If we don't cross these bridges when they come, I believe we will have to cross them later. 

So claim your grief and remember it wouldn't be so bad if you hadn't loved so much.  I think the trade off of loving someone so much is worth it.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs,
Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

Re: Back to the tears

ljg,

I agree with Pam. It is a process that we have to go through. If not now, then later. It is better to just go with it.  The more you loved the more it hurts & the longer the grieving, but yes, it is worth it.

My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.