1 (edited by Cherbourg Thu, 02 Apr 2009 15:12:49)

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Hi All,

Haven't posted in a short while but wanted to let my other family know where things are.  My Mom has gone downhill really fast since this past Monday.  We've gone to a hospital bed, diapers and for all practical purposes Helen as we know her has gone.  She cannot swallow and appears to be almost in a coma.  She is getting morphine, a scolpomine patch, atropine and lorazapam.  She is unresponsive but does not appear to be in pain.  We are lovingly, tenderly caring for the body she inhabited and praying it will be an easy end. 

Hospice nurses think the end will come either tonight or tomorrow.    We are simply waiting and keeping vigil.  We are ok right now but this is so incredibly hard. 

My heart is breaking...

Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

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Pam,

Please know that we are praying for your family and wish you all peace.

Jan

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Our thoughts are with you and the family.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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Pam,
   I am so sorry. I know how difficult this is for all of you. Reading your thoughts it sounds exactly - down to the last detail almost - what I went through with Butch at the end. The only comfort is that there doesn't appear to be any pain - our Doctor was here the day before Butch passed away - he paid house calls - and he asked Butch if he was in pain. Butch had been pretty well comatose for a day or two, but he answered the Doctor and said - quite clearly - "only a little". So, I hope that is a comfort to you - we had it in his own words. This is probably the hardest thing we will ever have to do. I will be thinking of you, and praying.

Love - Joyce

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Pam....Painful and so very precious are these last moments we spend with the one we love.  I am wishing for strength for you and your family. 
My heart is with you,
Marion

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Pam,

My thoughts & prayers are with you and your family. 

Love,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

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Dear Pam,
I have been down that road, too, and I know how your heart must be breaking. I wish I could make things better for you. Your mom is in my thoughts and prayers.
Joyce M

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It's now 11:00.  Mom's breathing is becoming more shallow and her extremities are becoming cool.  She thankfully is in absolutely no pain that I can detect.  No restlessness, no grimacing  - just quietness except for her breath sounds.

I've stroked her hands and told her how much I love her and that it's ok to go.  I hope and pray it will be soon.

I'm so comforted knowing you all are still with me on this journey.  Seeing her in this state is bittersweet - knowing that I'm really losing her,  but thanking God she is passing peacefully into his loving arms.

Please keep us in your prayers.

Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

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Pam,
I have been thinking of you a lot lately.  I am deeply sorry for you and your family.  Even if we know it is inevitable, when it is no longer months or weeks, but days before our loved ones depart, the finality of it seems unbarable.  My thought and prayers are with your mother, you and your family. 
I pray for your strength and courage
Barbara

The  Lord is my shephard

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Pam,
I am new to this site but am praying for you and your family. I sat with my Mom when she passed away 10 years ago (not from cc). The last thing I did was recite the Lords prayer and tell her it was OK to go. She took her last breath and was gone. I am crying as I type, remembering...  As a Mom myself and having CC I know how I would feel having my children there with me when the Lord calls me home.  I believe she knows you are with her and that it means the world to her. She is blessed to have such a loving daughter. May God Bless your entire family as you go through this most difficult time. My prayers are with you,
Jamie

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Pam,

I know your mom can feel the love that surrounds her, everyone should be accompanied to the end with such comfort.

Patty

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Dear Pam    it is a  very strange place you are in at the moment,I know how surreal it seems-I have been there twice.You will get a bit of a second wind to get you through.I think you feel very close to your loved one and your family at this time and its good to be there      wishing you strength  Janet

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Dear Pam...we are with you.
Hugs
Marion

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I would like all of you to know that Helen Louise Whitfield Davis (77)  took her last sweet breath and passed from the arms of her loving family into the arms of her Lord Jesus at 1:43 am on Friday, April 3, 2009.

Harvey, her husband and her two daughters, Pam and Kristi were with her when she died.  It was so beautiful and peaceful with no pain.  Mom simply breathed one time and was gone the next moment.  Mom and Daddy would have been married 58 years on April 27, 2009.

I'll write more later.

Thank you all for being with me every step of this journey.

Smiling through my tears...
Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

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Dear Pam I knew it was close and I was thinking about you all this evening (my time).It will all be ok for you and your dad too,your mum was very loved.

                                            love from  Janet

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Pam

I am so sorry.   My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

God bless, strengthen you and hold you all in HIS loving arms and may your Mom rest in peace.

with love

Michelle

"My dad, Tony, passed away on 4 October 2010, after a 19 month battle with CC"   - I carry you in my heart, Dad, forever.

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Pam,

I am so sorry. You & your family are in my thoughts & prayers.  I am hoping that knowing you have everyone here to help & support you at this sad time will give you the strength to get by.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

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Dear Pam,

I'm so sorry.  Please know that my thoughts are with you and your family.

G

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Dear Pam

We are very sorry to hear about your mother Helen Louise Whitfield Davis.

Unfortunately, we all on here know what you have gone/going through today.

Our thoughts are with you and your family in this time.

Always remember to "Smile through the tears", she will be in your hearts for eternity.

Marc & all his family send their condolences

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Harvey, Pam & Kristi:  I am very sorry for your loss.  Peace be with her.

Marjo