Topic: I need a husband or a "domestic partner"

My COBRA health insurance payments are $600 a month.  That is 20% of my monthly income.  Altogether I will be paying 60% of my monthly take home in insurance and mortgage payments alone.

I'm trying not to panic, but jiminy - between the cancer and the bills I am worried.  I should be used to taking care of myself and my kids after all these years, but it sure would be nice to have some help!

This coming school year is my daughter's senior year in high school.  I just want to hang on to the house until she finishes.  Hopefully by then the housing market will go up a bit, too, so I won't be underwater on the mortgage.

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Lisa,

This popped up today in the news, the health care crisis is really reaching a fever pitch, I know so many people who are anxious about this. I think the people need to rise up in rebellion.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/us_health_care_poll

Patty

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People are so scared of socialised medicine and they always compare it to the problems experienced in Canada and Britain. I had my original surgery in Britain with a worlld reknown surgeon, even my local doctor in GReenwood, SC had heard of him. So the quality doesnt have to go down.

I have had the most wonderful experience with socialised medicine in Sweden. Regular scans, weekly bloodwork. I am on Xeloda, Oxilplatin and Avastan...no paperwork to file. My doctors are fighting as hard as I am and cost has not entered the discussion. I have never been denied anything because of cost. I dont have to wait for treatment...although a PET scan does take a couple of weeks because there is not one near me. It is fantastic. I wish the US would get something similar. I want to go home but I am stuck here. Noway I could get insurance in the US and when I asked about Medicare/medicaid, I was told I needed to divorce my husband to get it...talk about family values.

Anyway, rant over.

Kris

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope

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Kris,

You are so right. It almost seems as if most people in the US have been brain washed to believe that socialized medicine is bad.  I have thought for a long time that both the health care and insurance industry in the US are totally out of control and that socialzed medicine is the only thing that can change that. Unfortunately I am in the minority here.  I know of many people like you that are very happy with their care and treatment under these plans and as you said, cost is not the priority.  How sad that in the US it seems to be all about the money, not a persons well being.  It is also sad that people are told to divorce, marry are forced to live in other countries away from family and friends etc. or lose everything they have worked for all their lives and then still do not get proper care.  Kris, I am glad that atleast you are getting good care and Lisa, hang in there. None of this is fair, but hopefully by some miracle things will change soon.  I am hoping & praying that it will all work out for you somehow.

That's the end of my rant for today!

Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

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This report is also very interesting, we are paying more for less:

http://www.commonwealthfund.org/Content … Healt.aspx

Patty

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Patty,

That is very interesting and is basically what I have believed, seen & experienced for many years now.  Unfortunately, most people in the US refuse to believe it.  I am all for some type of socialized health care for those who want or need it.  Thanks for posting the link.

Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

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I happened to see my general practice physician yesterday.  He advised me to do whatever it took to hang on to my private insurance plan. 

This doctor is a wonderful man who just started a free clinic in my town, so he is also concerned about access to health care for poor people.