I agree with everything that has been said above. My situation with my husband was similar to what you described except that he died, in the hospital, the morning I was trying to get hospice set up. I too have thought & felt what you are now and have to believe that everything happened the way it did for a reason and that there was nothing more I could have done or say that would have changed it. As Patty said, we all did our best with the circumstances we were given. I think we all have these doubts.
The "what if's and if only's".
It has been almost a year since Jim passed on and I am going through some of that again now remembering those last days, so your posting this question at this time and the wonderful responses you have gotten are also helping me.
Patty, thanks for posting that link on care givers regret. It is helpful and comforting. I am wondering if it can be posted somewhere more visable and easily accessable for others going through this same thing.
Booklover, We are all here for you. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.
Love & Hugs,
"One Day At A Time"
All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.