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Thank You for posting this, which raises awareness of complicated grief. Very interesting,
Katie
Thankyou for posting that article,Marion.I think for many of us including me ,that is our biggest fear,the fear of totally losing it and not being able to function,well it was certainly mine.I was sure that would happen to me and rather relieved when I could still carry on. Janet
Although, it has been 2 1/2 years for me, I still yearn for the life I had before my husband's passing. Yes, life goes on but, certainly, it is more difficult to navigate then ever before although, with each passing day I find myself more and more to be adjusting to life without him. The above mentioned article confirms that the loss of a loved one is profound and has an everlasting impact on those left behind. How and when a person emerges out of this tunnel of loss is very individual to each and every person. It is reaffirming to know that all of us are entitled to feeling as we do nor, do we have to fit a specific time line and adhere to the expectations of others.
We will get through this.
Hugs
Marion
Marion,
I too want to thank you for this posting. It helps to know that what we are feeling and going through is right for us and that grieving is a very personal thing that we each must deal with in our own way and in our own time. Yes, we will all get through this, together, one day at a time.
Love & Hugs,
Darla
Actually,I feel I am nowhere near "out of the tunnel"-but I am happy I am able to get out of bed and function even if it is at a lesser extent because I really thought I would not be able to. Janet
Janet,
I know what you mean. I too thought I was not doing well at all, but after reading that article I realize that in comparision, we are functioning quite well. As you said, "still not out of the tunnel" but able to face life every day even if it is not at the same level as it was before.
Darla
I found this article really helpful, too, Marion. When my dad died (sudden massive heart-attack) many years ago, I really felt I'd never be able to function again. Reading the article was painful, even after all these years, as I recognised many of the feelings described as feelings I'd experienced at the time.
It was good to read this article & see how far, far, far I've come. I hope no future loss will debilitate me that way again - & I don't believe it will.
Thanks for posting the link
Julia 
thanks fopr sharing, Marion - the article was very interesting. It has certainly been a long, hard year, but, thanks to my many friends here on the board, my new friends from the grievance group, and my family, I feel like I have been supported through all the trials and tribulations. Like you said, I still yearn for my old life, but, I am making my way to a new life, and I did worry if I would be able to do that! I wouldn't go so far as to say I am normal, but I am a functioning member of society, so that is a start in the right direction!
Joyce
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