Topic: Just need to vent
So frustrated today -- the past week and a half, dad's been getting out of bed but he's so weak that he then goes down to the floor -- so last week, the hospice nurse strongly recommended that he get the long-acting morphine and haloperidol at 12 hour intervals -- she also said to give him a small dose of the short-acting morphine about half an hour before the nurse's aide comes to give him a bed bath.
However, my sister-in-law was reporting that dad didn't want the nurse's aide to touch him when he came and the night before last, he didn't sleep and kept them all up. So when the hospice nurse asked today, I found out he's only been getting a morning dose of morphine and haloperidol and he hasn't been getting the morphine before the aide comes! The nurse also checked and found a pressure sore and bruise on one buttock so that's probably causing him quite a bit of pain and he really should be getting the pain medication.
I suspect my brother doesn't want to give him all the medication as it really sedates my dad and I think they are both afraid it will hurry his passing. So, the hospice nurse again went over this all again with my brother. The nurse also got in touch with the hospice social worker and she was able to come by today to again go over some options like respite care or a private caregiver.
My brother still does not want to do either -- perhaps doing so would admit that dad is really going to die.