Topic: My young 30 year old husband is battling cholangiocarcinoma
Almost two years ago at the age of 26 I married a wonderful Englishman I met during a work internship. His name is Oli. He redefined for me what love is and how relationships work and thanks to him I started to believed in love, and in marriage, and in spending the rest of my life with someone.
We spent one and a half years in marital bliss. I often thought how I was so incredibly happy. I almost thought it was impossible for someone to be as happy as I was, that things were too good to be true...
Then in February, we took Oli to get some tests after having spent the good of six months with abdominal pain which the doctors thought was acid reflux or a stomach ulcer. The scans revealed that he had a large 10cm tumor in his liver and he was diagnosed with intrahepatic cholangiocarcinoma.
So we are dealing with the aftermath and it has been an incredible journey filled with all the spectrum of human emotion that you can imagine. He did not respond well to the first chemotherapy drugs and after two months the tumor continued to grow and spread. He is now in second line chemotherapy, which has an even slimmer chance of working. We live one day at a time. It is impossible to make plans for the future going further ahead than about a month and I have taken leave from my job to care for him and spend as much time as I can with him, as I don't know how long we have together.
I am facing the likelihood of being a young widow and of loosing my soulmate. However, Oli, as much as he taught me the meaning of love, has also taught me the meaning of death, and I now know that despite no longer being a part of this earth in body and mind, his spirit will continue to forever guard over me and provide infinite love. This gives me comfort and joy and the will to keep going, no matter what happens.
I want to tell all of you on this forum that I am here for you, and I know you are here for me too.