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My Dad was diagnosed July 2010 & passed away on December 14, 2010.  I am still very bitter and angry about the short amount of time we had with him (only 5 months).  I got married a month after he passed away and my wonderul and strong Mom walked me down the aisle.  I think about him every day.  I'm hoping that I can find emotional support here - it is much needed

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Dear DiamondSkye, I am so very sorry to hear about your Dad and I strongly believe he was all around you at your wedding. It is going to take time but eventually the anger will subside and all of your happier memories will take over. You need time. In the meantime, we have our Dr. Giles on site here at the top of page and perhaps attending some grief meetings or speaking with your clergy may help. I know that others will come forward  here with more suggestions. Know that you are not alone and that your Dad would want to see you happy in your new life and that he was lucky to have a daughter like you.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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Dear Lainy,

Thank you for your kind words and I'm definitely going to look into Dr. Giles.  You're right in the fact that my Dad would want to see my happy in my new life; I guess I just feel stuck.  I truly think this organization/website is the next best step in helping me out.  Thank you so much for reaching out.

~Tara~

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Tara,  I am so sorry you lost your dad so suddenly.  I know it is a shock.   My dad lived about 6 months from diagnosis.  I was so very sad for a while.  Let your self grieve and heal.  Your dad loved you!  When my dad found out he had cancer, my husband and I were in the process of moving.  I stayed and cared for my Dad then moved.  It was very hard to start my "new life"'in a place I had never lived before.  I spent hours going through everything that happened in my head.  After about 18 months, things are so much better.  Take it easy on yourself.  Understand that your dad would want you to be happy!  Stick around here and you'll receive support.  If it is not enough,  talk to family, close friends, or a therapist..  It's all a part of processing what  happened to you and your family.

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Tara,

I am so sorry for your loss.   You and your family have my deepest sympathy and understanding.  My husband passed away less than 2 months from when he had his first symptom of something being wrong, so I do know how you are all feeling.   You have come to the right place for support and understanding.  Keep coming back,  we are all here to help each other. 

Your  dad will always be with you now in your heart and memories.   Take things one day at a time and keep coming back.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

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Dear Tara,

Welcome to the site. I am very sorry to hear about your dad and I can so understand your feelings of bitterness and anger, that is common. I too lost my dad to this cancer back in 2009 and like you, I still think of him each day. You will indeed find so much emotional support here from people who can understand how you are feeling and what you went through, so keep coming back here and know that we are all here for you.

And also, I just wanted to say that I so agree with what Lainy said to you about Dr Giles and I think that he will be of great help to you. He can be contacted through this link here -

http://www.cholangiocarcinoma.org/ask.htm

My best wishes to you,

Gavin

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