Topic: Mom passed last night ;-(

My dear amazing super mom passed away on her own terms  and her own timing late last night. It was all going so quickly but no one thought it would be THAT soon.... as my brother said, she has been one step ahead of us the whole time and we just never caught up. It is a blessing that she could go quickly, and i truly believe that she wanted to protect US from suffering through her decline any further.

She is now making heaven a more beautiful place with her gardening and probably offering everyone her yummy minted lemon iced tea and a home made ginger snap or brownie.

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MMKING I am so terribly sorry and you are right, Mom didn't want to suffer nor did she want to put anyone else through more. I'll bet she is making the best Garden ever and I hope she is growing some basil so Teddy can make everyone his Marinara Sauce! My heartfelt condolences go out to your family.

Letter from Heaven  by Ruth Ann Mahaffey

To my dearest family some things I'd like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived okay,
I'm writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there's no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I'm out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said "I welcome you,
It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
One thing is for certain though my life on earth is o'er
I'm closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
Together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind
I'm walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind
And when it's time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you're not going . . you're just coming here to me.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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MMKING,

You and your family have my deepest sympathy for the loss of your dear mother.  Yes, your mom did it her way and is now at peace, no longer suffering or in pain.   Keep her forever in your heart and memories.  Thinking of you all and hoping that you and your family can also find some peace and understanding.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

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Dear mmking,

I am very sorry to here of your Mom's passing. May she live on in your heart forever.

Love, -Pam

My beautiful daughter, Lauren Patrice, will live on in my heart forever.

My comments, suggestions, and opinions are based on my experience as a caretaker for my daughter, Lauren and from reading anything I can get my hands on about Cholangiocarcinoma. Please consult a physician for professional guidance.

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I am very sorry you lost your mom.  She is at peace now and not suffering.  She was a brave person and fought with dignity and grace.  Thoughts and prayers for your family.  Pam

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I am very sorry for the loss of your Mom, keep your memories close to your heart.
Lisa

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Dear mm, I'm so very sorry for your loss. My sister adored gardening and I hope she and your mom are now swapping tips and supping minted iced-tea happily together.

Julia x

"Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician."

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Dear mm, So sorry to hear of the passing of your dear super mom. She sounds lovely. Sounds like you have wonderful memories in the old house where you all grew up. Your mom was blessed with a wonderful family and they a wonderful mom. Hugs. Nancy

Loving my husband from afar.

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Thank you All for your un-ending kind words and thoughts.
Does anyone know the requiremnts to Inlcude the Cholangiocarcinoma Foundation for donation in Obiturary?? I put a ? into Stacey but have not heard...

Thanks again- i am at JFK  on my way home to my family, but i have been carring my family (you all!) with me all along. Thank you /

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Dear MM,

Moms have a way of doing what they believe is best for their children.  I lost my Mom in 2009 to CC so I know what you are going through.  You and your siblings are the amazing legacy that she leaves behind.  I know she is proud of all of you. 

The next days will be tough, but you will find a deep strength inside of you that will get you through all the countless decisions that have to be made.  Be gentle with yourself in the coming weeks.  Grieving is the hardest job we ever do and no two people will grieve in the same way or timeframe.  Be kind to yourself and take your time to find your own way.

We are all here for you as you tackle the next steps of this journey.

I'm sending hugs and prayers for healing and understanding...

Hugs,
Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

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Dear MMKING, you can just add to the bottom of the Obituary something like: Memorials Appreciated to the Cholangiocarcinoma Foundation or Memorials in the name of _______ appreciated to the CC Foundation. I would add the address on as well. I had ordered our brochures and put them in a packet about Teddy and passed them out at Teddy's Memorial.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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the cholangiocarcinoma foundation 
5526 West 13400 South, #510
Salt Lake City, Utah 84096  U.S.A. 801-999-0455

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

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Dear mmking,

I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your mum. Please accept my sincere condolences. Having lost my dad to this disease I so know the pain that you feel right now. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Gavin

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Dear Mmking,

Please accept my sincere condolences on the passing of your mom.  You were a very supportive daughter and your mom was very lucky to have you as her advocate.  She is at peace now and in a much better place.  I hope she runs into my husband John who died on July 8th.  I'm sure he would like a good cookie.   Hugs,  PeggyP

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MMking.....my heart goes out to you and your family.  Your Mom has left a legacy in your hearts and in the hearts of those on this site.
MMking, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your kindness in asking donations to be made to the  Cholangiocarcinoma Foundation. Due to the kindness of people like you, funding for increased research into this disease is growing rapidly. 
Stacie responds personally to each donor with a thank you note, but the name of the honoree must be included.  Therefore; please be so kind and remind the kind people to include your Mom's name in the donation letters.
My heart is with you.
Hugs and love,
Marion

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