• From: Binghamton, NY
  • Registered: Tue, 24 Jul 2012
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Topic: It's been 7 months since I lost my Mom

7 months ago yesterday I lost my mom, who was also my best friend, confidante, adviser, my world.  I just found this site but wish I would have found it a year ago.  Maybe then I would have known what was coming.
My mom was first diagnosed June 2011 after months of them "knowing it was cancer but not able to find it".  I think it was almost a relief to finally know what was going on so we could start fighting it.  She went through some chemo treatments and we we under the impression that we were winning the fight.  Unfortunately we were very wrong and she passed on January 9th. 
If I had found this site sooner, I would have been so much better prepared and would not have believed the oncologist when he said that my mom could live for years with this cancer and die of old age.  I would have spent those last months making sure she knew how very much I loved her and how very much she meant to me.  I would have moved up my wedding date so that she could have been there for it walking me down the aisle where she should have been.  Instead she wasn't able to be there in person but I know she was there. 
I miss her so much.  She was taken from this world much to early.  There have been so many things she should have been there for in the short time she has been gone and so many more things that are yet to come.  I still don't know what to do without her.  There was no one that I turned to for advice more than her.
She is missed so much everyday...not just by myself but by everyone that loved her.

  • From: Wisconsin
  • Registered: Sun, 07 Sep 2008
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Re: It's been 7 months since I lost my Mom

Hi Michelle,

Welcome to the club no one wants to belong to but are happy to have found.  I am sorry to hear you lost your mom to this disease, but glad you found your way to this site.  I found it a few days after my husband passed away from CC and the support and understanding you will get here  is wonderful.  I don't think I would be where I am today without it.  I felt much as you do in the beginning, but I now believe I did the best I could with the situation we were given and so did you.   I'm sure your mom knew how much you loved her and cared about her.  She is still all around you and will always be with you in your heart and memories. 

Everyone here has either lost a loved one to CC or is dealing with it in one way or another.  We all know and understand how you are feeling.  Please keep coming back.  We are all here to help and support each other and are here for you, too.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"
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Re: It's been 7 months since I lost my Mom

Dearest Michelle, I am so very sorry about your Mom. But, you see, Mom's never really leave their children and she is all around you, all you have to do is be aware of her presence. Please don't look back at should of could of as you can't change it and Mom would rather have you moving forward and being happy. I feel for all our loved ones go through with CC that is the least we can do for them. You were lucky to have had a wonderful relationship with your Mom and she was lucky to have a daughter like you.

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn's rain,
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.                   By Mary Elizabeth Frye

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.
  • From: Revelstoke BC
  • Registered: Sat, 01 Jan 2011
  • Posts: 552

Re: It's been 7 months since I lost my Mom

Dear Michelle,  I feel your pain. I lost my dad at 18 and now my children lost their dad while in their 20's.  I just past the 37th anniversary this month of my father's death and coming up to 11 months since my husband's passing. I will have to say that there is not a day that goes by that I don't feel their presence. Saw this Pooh quote today that I loved - "If there ever comes a day that we can't be together.....Keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever."  Hugs. Nancy

Loving my husband from afar.