Topic: My beautiful mom passed yesterday

My mom passed away at home yesterday at 11am. She was not in any pain when she left and I was by her side. For past few days I told her how much I loved her and she didn't have to be scared to leave. I know she heard every word, even though she was no longer able to speak, she would respond with teary eyes.

She was so beautiful and young (62), the next few months/years will be very difficult for me. I miss her so much....

Anne

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Dearest Anne, I am so very sorry about your Mom, please accept my prayers for your family. I don't believe Mom's really ever leave their children so in my mind she is in the next room and will always be all around you. It is a blessing that her Passing was so peaceful and eventually you will remember only the best of times no matter how short they may have been.

Letter from Heaven  by Ruth Ann Mahaffey

To my dearest family some things I'd like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived okay,
I'm writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there's no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I'm out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said "I welcome you,
It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
One thing is for certain though my life on earth is o'er
I'm closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
Together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind
I'm walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind
And when it's time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you're not going . . you're just coming here to me.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Dear Anne, I'm so, so sorry. Thinking of you.

Julia x

“When it is dark enough, you can see the stars." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Dear Anne,

I am so sorry for your loss.   My husband was also 62 when he passed and that is way too young.   There are no words to ease your pain right now.   It sounds like she passed peacefully, was not in pain, with you by her side.  None of this is easy, but try to take some comfort in knowing that your mom is in a better place, no longer suffering or in pain.  I have to remind myself of that all the time.   You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

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Dear Anne,

I am so sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. I hope the pain you are feeling today is replaced by fond memories of times you spent together. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

Love, -Pam

My beautiful daughter, Lauren Patrice, will live on in my heart forever.

My comments, suggestions, and opinions are based on my experience as a caretaker for my daughter, Lauren and from reading anything I can get my hands on about Cholangiocarcinoma. Please consult a physician for professional guidance.

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Anne-I am so sorry about your loss, my heart and prayers are with you.
Lots of prayers-Cathy

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Anne;

I am very sorry that your Mom has passed.  She was very young.  I know you  loved her and did your best to help her.  My Mom passed in February.  We feel your pain.  My heart goes out to you.

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Anne,
I am so sorry for your painful loss. Cherish your beautiful memories. I will pray for peace and comfort for you and your family.
Lisa

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Dear Anne,

I am so very sorry indeed to hear of the passing of your dear mum. Please accept my sincere condolences. I know how hard this is for you right now as I lost my dad to this cancer. Please know that my thoughts are with you and your family right now.

Hugs,

Gavin

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Thank you everyone who have been so supportive through this difficult time. Mom and I were so close, I miss her so much.

Anne

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Anne,
So sorry to hear of your Mother's passing.  I hope that soon the sad feelings of today will be replaced with your happy memories.

*Hugs*
-Randi-

Survivor of cholangiocarcinoma (2009), thyroid cancer (1999), and breast cancer (1994).

My comments, suggestions, and opinions are based only on my personal experience as a cancer survivor. Please consult a physician for professional guidance.

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Dear Anne,

I'm so sorry to read your post. I lost my mum on New Year's Eve, she was 59. I also spent the last two weeks telling her how much I love her and I hope she managed to conquer fear before she left. I was also so close to her and being single and not too close to the other members of my family I feel all alone - although I'm blessed with great friends.

I know there are no words to make you feel better but the most comforting thing I've heard is that it never actually gets any better, the pain might even get worse at points, but you do learn to live with it and you just have to accept it as part of your life.

Nine months after mum's death, the numbing pain is almost gone and as I miss her more and more each day there are moments when the pain is so acute, it hurts. But at the same time I enjoy my friends' company, I laugh and party and work, refusing to let grief take over my life.

Think of how happy and proud your mum would be to see you being strong and enjoying life.

My warmest hugs,

Maria

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Thank you Randi.

MK,

I am very appreciative of you sharing your experience with me. I never thought I was going to have to deal with losing mom at such a young age, I turned 34 in July.

I take it one day at a time. A couple of days before she passed, I cried a lot and was worried that I will never be okay. Days after I had lot to take care of including funeral/burial arrangements, when my day is occupied then I do "okay". It's the nights that are the worst, when it's all quiet and I'm in bed tears just come out.

I started going through mom's closet and found this little doll thing I made for her when I was about 13/14. Mom always brought that doll with her where ever she went, she said it brought her comfort and luck. The day she passed, I looked every where but could not find the doll, that was very upsetting. As I was going though one of mom's purses today, it was right there in the zipped compartment. The doll will be buried with mom to keep her company.

Anne

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Anne,

I lost my Mom to this monster April 3, 2009.  So far the grief has not gone away but I find the good memories gradually replacing the bad ones. 

I miss her so much and can still be reduced to tears in a store by passing someone wearing her perfume.

I buried my Mom with her favorite lipstick, a Cholangiocarcinoma bracelet and a seashell I picked up on the beach during a particularly bad day dealing with anticipatory grief.  I had written her name in the sand and found I couldn't walk away.  As I stood there a wave kissed the beach, washing away her name and a small white shell was left there.  I felt as if God had given me a sign and a message that he would be there when I needed him and that I would manage to get through the coming days.

I would give anything to hear her voice again and have her here to listen to my problems and worries and get her advice.

I firmly believe grieving is the hardest job we ever have.  There is no timetable for grief and no two people will ever grieve in the same way.  Be gentle with yourself and take your time.  You are an amazing legacy your Mom leaves behind.

We are always here for you and will walk with you on the next part of this journey...

Sending hugs and prayers....
Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

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Thank you for sharing your experience Pam, mothers and daughters have a very special bond. Mom and I were so close, our bond is forever strong...

Anne

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Dear Anne, I feel your pain. Somehow we make it through these times with love and memories and with putting one foot in front of the other. It is a journey, a tough one, but you will feel her love every step of the way. Take care and keep in touch. Love to you and your family. Nancy

Loving my husband from afar.

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Thank you Nancy, I admire the love you have for Doug, you are a wonderful person.

Anne