Topic: Stage 4 cancer...Cholangiocarcninoma....My heart broke.
On April 14th 2015, My father went to the ER for stomach pains. He had been having on/off again pains in his stomach for about 2 months. But, the pain seemed to be a lot worse this day. He was putting up a fence on Sunday and having a hard time...which if you knew my dad, he could do ANYTHING! Monday he went to work, and came home not feeling well. Tuesday, it was to the ER. They told him that he looked yellow and if he had any liver problems....We said NO. He just had his liver Bilirubin testing in Feb for his diabetes and it was perfect! There was no way something was wrong w/ his liver. Wednesday, we found out that he was in acute liver failure...Wait what? That they saw something on the CT scan. 2 shadows. Dumb...It could be anything. Thursday, a biopsy of the liver. Cancer. What kind? Is it bad? What do we do? No answers. Until Friday April 17th 2015 6:05pm. The Dr. walked in. I was with my son and my mother (his wife) She asked my son (10 years to leave the room) and then she says Stage 4 Cancer. Cholangiocarcinoma. There was nothing we could do. It has metastasized his liver. No transplant, no treatment could cure him. I was daddy's little girl losing her dad-her superman-her hero-words can not express what it felt like to hear-"we can not do anything" "hospice" I was so confused how I could have a strong dad putting up a fence 5 days ago and planning a fishing trip memorial weekend, to hearing he has 6 months. Saturday April 18th. He was going to come home to die. Hospice was getting his meds together. But, he was in to much pain. He wanted to come home more than anything. Sunday April 19th. All the kids-sister/brothers-his dad were all there at that hospital. He was cutting up laughing-making all the nurses laugh-even on his death bed he was making sure we were all ok, that we laughed with him-NOT CRYING. April 20th 2015. 6 days after being admitted My dad-My hero-My superman went with our lord at 3:30pm.
What happened to 6 months? What happened? How can this cancer that I have never heard of take my dad this fast? I have studied and studied this since he was diagnosed. I keep thinking maybe it was a medication he was on...He took Lipitor for 6 years...could this be the cause? I know I am reaching....but this is all I can do now. Is study more and see if I can help in anyway. I have read a lot of the symptoms of people diagnosed...he really didn't have ANY-until the last couple of months, and even then it was bearable. He was never even nauseated! So many questions-and really I still have no answers. Just missing him so.
I know in my heart this is God's Time.
Maggie Lollar-Looking for answers
Thomas S. Reynolds 52 Jan 8 1963-April 2oth 2015