Topic: John fought a hard battle

Hi All,

It's taken me a few weeks before I could post this. John Boulley passed away on September 4th. We were in the middle of hurrican Ike. Even though we live in Arkansas it still hit us hard. We had no electricity. The hospice nurses made sure he was as comfortable as possible.

Sometimes it feels like he's still here, just gone out for awhile. Then it hits that he's not comming home.

Before he slipped into a coma he made me promise I would be alright without him. So I must go on and keep that promise.

We knew from the beginning this would be the outcome. The doctors and their staff gave us two and a half good years. John was able to take care of himself until the week before he died. He was a very strong proud man, and stayed that way till the end.

He will be missed terribly.

Thanks to all on this site for your kindness, support, and sympathy.

Alice

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Dear Alice,
So very sorry that John has passed to the other side.  I am glad that you were able to have the 2+ good years.  Remember all the wonderful times you had together.  Be strong.  My prayers coming your way. 
Karen

Wishing all God's blessings!

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So sorry for your loss. I am constantly amazed at the toll this horrible disease takes - we lost so many in September, including my strong father on Sept. 5.
May God's grace and blessings be with you in this trying time.

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Alice,

I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly where you are at as my husband Jim passed away on Sept 2nd.  He was only sick for 7 weeks & was positively diagnoised only 1 week before he passed away.  I am not sure which is worse, not knowing & losing him so quickly or knowing & having to watch the progression that much longer. I wish for what you had as I felt I was denied the extra time with him. So much was left unsaid & undone as we really had no idea how bad this was & how little time we had.  Be glad for the time you had & remember all the good memories. Know that he is OK & is no longer in pain. I am hanging on to the memories & the fact that I know he will be in my heart forever. You are right, both John & Jim would want us to be strong & go on, but it really is hard. With all of the help & support here we can do this and we can also help & support others as they come along.

God Bless You. You are in my thoughts & prayers.

Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

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Alice,
I am so sorry for your loss. I got a lump in my throat over your promise. He obviously loved you so much and stayed with you as long as possible. I will say an extra prayer for you and your family.

Kris

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope

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We are so very sorry to hear of John's passing but at the same time content with the fact he did not suffer too greatly. John is still with you in your heart and memories. Prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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Hi Alice,  My sincere sympathy of John's passing.  His promise was one of great love and confidence. 

God's Strenght,
Jeff

Take it to the Limit,One More Time! (Eagles)

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Dear Alice,
All my sympathy on the loss of your dear husband. Sometimes it's better to think they've just gone away for a little while, to help you cope. I wish you peace in your time of grief-
Joyce M

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Alice,
      I am so sorry that you have lost your husband. It is so hard to accept that they have gone. My husband, Anthony, died 2 months ago and I still can't really believe that he's not coming back to me. I am so glad for you that John did not suffer so much at the end. We weren't able to have that last beautiful conversation that I know you will remember for ever.
I found that after a few weeks I was able to start talking to Anthony and I find it helps. I ask him to help me cope and he does but it is so hard.
    I hope that you will find the strength to cope without John and that you will treasure the time you spent together and the love you shared.
          Pauline

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Alice,
   I am so sorry to hear about your John. I pray that God will give you the  strength to continue on.  I am glad that you had the 2 + years. John sounds like a remarkable man.

Joyce C