Topic: What To Do When the Stress Leaves?

Hello to all my CC family! I was not sure where to post this as I have not seen this topic come up before for caretakers so I must be really weird. At any rate, since the Radiologist has told us that Teddy will be cancer free (for awhile anyway)after the Cyber Knife my stress has flown out the window for now. BUT for the last 4 days I have just not been feeling like me. I am not as worried about Teddy but everything else is irritating me! One of my friends who has been through a lot medically said, "well, no wonder, your stress is gone and you need to adapt again". If this is true how does one adapt to a "normal" life again? What am I missing here?

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

Re: What To Do When the Stress Leaves?

NORMAL!?? What the heck is normal.  If you find out let me know! I think that maybe with everything we go through daily and the weight we carry around all day, day in day out, when we find a time to relax or forget about it, we don't know how...does that make sense? I mean, we are soooo used to running on emotion, running on empty, running around like chickens with our heads cut off, that that becomes our normal.  And now, you have to learn to slow down, relax and enjoy like you did before this monster took hold of your lives.  I think like that alot....if the cancer fairy came and waved her magic wand, and Lee's cancer was all gone...I would love for it to be the way it was before, but do it even better this time.  I don't know. I think I'm rambling. We've run marathon after marathon these past months and years. You and Teddy ran your last one. Now what? I think that is very normal.  Know that we think and pray for you two often!  Can't wait to meet!

Love,
Heather

Re: What To Do When the Stress Leaves?

Thanks Heather and I do feel more myself today. I think when the stress was decreased with the good report I let go of that and let the daily "stuff" start seeping in again. See, I also am the care giver so to speak for a 92 year old mother. We should all be as healthy as she is at 92. No glasses or hearing aid.
Very healthy! At any rate last Sunday was my peak of weirdness. I had 3 couples over to use up a ton of pork tenderloin in the freezer. I made it and sliced it and made a beautiful gravy and put it all in my Pyrex dish. While taking it to the oven my fingers opened up and the dish and pork and gravy went all over the kitchen floor. Teddy went to the store while I cleaned it up. Then the 3 other couples sat down to eat and all of a sudden all their hands were turning gray! I had polished my silver and evidently did not get the polish all off the handles. Embarrassing! I felt like Erma Bombeck. So, still waiting for you to pick a date to meet. We could meet half way or you are welcome to come here to Sun Lakes. By the way I can do without another marathon!!!

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.