Topic: Mum - 74 yrs old given 6 months last July 05
I am grateful for any site that offers some insite to what we as a family are going through.
My mum has been ill with pains for over 4 years now, and after numerous tests they finally decided that it was gall bladder pain. I was in no doubt of this as 4 years ago I, at the age of 22, had to have mine removed after going through a year of pain - so I understand exactly what the pain is like.
Once they operated last July, they found cancer all over the gall bladder. We have since found out that it is also in the liver, surrounding lymph nodes, also spotting in the lungs. They estimated an average of 6 months life span. I know this is always vague and happy to say my mum is still doing well.
She has lost some weight over the last month and her appetite has gone a little also, she occasionally feels sickly (but not often). My mum has decided not to have chemo as she feels there would be no great benefit from this for her and is worried that she wants to feel as well as she can, for as long as she can.
I am very proud of my mum for her bravery, I never realised what a strong women she is. Through her bravery she has provided us with just the same sort of attitude.
I do get very scared at times, I really worry about the time when things will get worse and this has been praying on my mind more and more now. She is getting a little slower in walking and I notice that her hands shake a lot as well.
I work, and I really am battling with myself on whether I should be taking time out to be with her. The place where I work have been really good with me and I can take time out whenever I want. Because they are so good I feel really guilty in letting them down, but then again I know I only have 1 mum.
I don't know how long we have and would be grateful for anyone who has been in this situation to advise how things progress.
Many thanks for this website.