• Registered: Sun, 28 Jun 2009
  • Posts: 3

Topic: Goodbye honey!!!

My precious husband left me suddenly 2 months ago.  He was diagnosed with CC on April 3 and died on April 8.  I had just 5 days to attempt to process in all of the new information about this disease (after it was finally diagnosed), and at the same time, trying to keep him more comfortable.
He had been very healthy and at age 61 was running 2 miles a day (until it got real cold).  The only symptoms were insomnia, dark urine, and lack of appetite.  I hope for everyone that there be some kind of screening and more research on this horrible disease.  I think we could have beat it if we had known sooner.
I'm glad there's a group here to talk to.  I live in an area where the closest support group is 50 miles away.  My daughters are grown and are about 3 hours away.  My mother lived here for 60+ years and she moved to the metroplex 2 weeks ago so I really do feel alone!!:)

  • From: Kalmar, Sweden
  • Registered: Sun, 20 May 2007
  • Posts: 1,951

Re: Goodbye honey!!!

Hi Pam,
We really are a nice group. VERY supportive. This cancer is sneaky. Most people dont get diagnosed until it is too late. It just isnt fair. You are not alone. There are several members who got the news and couldnt even process it before their loved ones died. I like to think that CC is a terrible disease that brings good people together.

This section of the board is very caring. The thread on Anthony has morphed into a great little support group and I advise you to join them...you wont be sorry.

I am sorry for your loss, but we are here to help.

Kris

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope
  • From: Wisconsin
  • Registered: Sun, 07 Sep 2008
  • Posts: 1,996

Re: Goodbye honey!!!

Hi Again Pam,

I am one of those who's story is much like yours. Jim was 62 & healthy like your husband and died less than 2 months after his first symptoms and only one week after getting a firm diagnosis. We were blindsided, just like you. I found this site a few days after he passed on. I felt like you that if only we had known sooner it may have been different, but now I just have to believe that it happened the way it was meant to and that atleast he did not suffer for too long and  he is no longer in pain and is in a better place.  It is the hardest for those of us who are left behind. I try to remember that he will always be with me in my heart & memories.

This site has been invaluable to me.  The people here are just great.  I am part of the thread about Anthony that began with Pauline.  Several of us have become close & keep in touch with each other. It has given me the strength to go on.  It is always good to know that you are not alone and that others understand.  It also helps to know that what you are feeling is "normal" for you as we are all going through the same things. Please feel free to join us. For me it has been the best support as I really do not think anyone who hasn't dealt with this type of cancer or gone through what we all have can possible know & understand, like the people here do, what it is like. Everyone here truely understands and cares.  They are the kindest most compassionate people on earth.  As Kris said, none of this is fair, but you are not alone. We are all here for each other.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

4 Reply by magic (edited by magic Tue, 30 Jun 2009 05:46:10)

  • From: NSW,Australia
  • Registered: Sat, 14 Feb 2009
  • Posts: 562

Re: Goodbye honey!!!

Hi Pam
             I am sorry about your experience,you must be shellshocked.I lost my husband 5 months ago and I am still reeling I am in Australia.My experience was sudden also                    Janet  x

  • From: New Jersey
  • Registered: Tue, 20 Nov 2007
  • Posts: 306

Re: Goodbye honey!!!

Hi Pam,
So very sorry for your loss.  I can only imagine the shock you must be in.  My husband passed in March after fighting this monster for about 17 months.  I guess we were more fortunate because we had the time to discuss the short future we knew we had together.  His end came quicker than was expected and I am still trying to process all that has happened in the past two years.  My heart aches for you as you digest all that has happened in such a terribly short time.  Wishing you strength and remembering you in prayer......
Peace,
Karen

Wishing all God's blessings!

6 Reply by pauline (edited by pauline Wed, 01 Jul 2009 13:12:37)

  • From: London, U.K.
  • Registered: Mon, 17 Mar 2008
  • Posts: 199

Re: Goodbye honey!!!

Dear Pam,
           I am so sorry to hear your sad news as well. This is an awful cancer that has left so many of us reeling from losing our loved ones in ways that are very difficult to rationalise. I still think about everything that happened to Anthony constantly. Darla lost her husband, Jim , very suddenly like you. Anthony had been diagnosed for over a year but it all happened so suddenly in the end that it was very hard to comprehend.
           We have all found it helpful to keep in touch with each other on this site, so please join us. We support each other and it helps to know we are not alone. I hope we can help you too.
            Thinking of you
                 Pauline

  • From: Endicott, New York
  • Registered: Sun, 01 Jun 2008
  • Posts: 457

Re: Goodbye honey!!!

Dear Pam,
   Like all of my friends here, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. These are great people, Very supportive, and they will be here for you any time. There are many of us who have lost loved ones to CC over the last months - husbands, Fathers, Mothers, and other close relatives. I lost my husband - Butch - last October. He was diagnosed in March of 2008, so last year is a blur in my mind! I have found it so helpful to communicate with others on this site, and it has saved my sanity sometimes, I think (not sure if I really AM sane, when I think about it)!
   I pray for peace and comfort for you, will be thinking about you.

Joyce C.

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