Topic: Feeling a little lost

Saturday, August 29, 2009 at about 2:20 am, my Mom made her final journey from this world to the next. My daughter was praying the rosary with her and wasn't sure she was breathing as she said the last prayer. No bedside drama, just went peacefully. I arrived about 9:30 am and got to say some goodbyes to her still in her own bed. I was there when the funeral home came to take her body. The days since have seemed very busy and exhausting. The viewing was Tuesday and the funeral was yesterday. Saw a lot of people we don't see very often. Also got to enjoy my grandson for a little bit. He'll be 2 tomorrow, so he didn't really understand what was going on, but he is remembering me now. Unfortunately, he lives far enough away that we don't get to see him nerely as often as I would like, so I'll enjoy him whenever I get the chance. In the last two days, I heard more comments about how much I look like my Mom or even act like her.
In many ways, the non-routine nature of the past few days seem unreal, to the point that going back to work (routinely) today also seems unreal.

Louise

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Hello, Louise. We are so very sorry to hear about your mom. She was fortunate to have you by her side through this terrible journey. At least she is now at peace in a kinder place and will also be watching over you forever. Our prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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My sincerest condolences for the loss of your mother.  Wishing you God's peace for the days ahead.  May you find comfort in a job well done, and joy in your loving memories.

Take care of yourself,
Jolene

"Faith in something greater than ourselves enables us to do what we have said we'll do, to press forward when we are tired or hurt or afraid, to keep going when the challenge seems overwhelming and the course is entirely uncertain."     ~g. b. hinckley

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Louise,
I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. Sending prayers your way.

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Louise,
  Condolences on the loss of your Mother. At least you know that she went peacefully, and that she is in a better place now. I find great comfort in that - no more suffering for our loved ones. And that, though they are gone from our sight on this earth, we will all meet again one glorius day. That is something to hang onto, as you journey this sad path.


Joyce C.

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Louise,

I too am so sorry to learn of your Mothers passing.  Just know that she will always be with you in your heart & memories.  As Joyce said, she is no longer suffering and at peace.  Know that you & your family are in my thoughts & prayers.

Darla

"One Day At A Time"

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Louise,
I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. Enjoy your children and grandchildren's love as your mother surely enjoyed yours. You were a wonderful daughter and it's so sad that your mother was taken from you. I wish you peace,
Joyce M

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Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. Mom's passing was no surprise. At the age of 88, she had fought cancer for about 3 years when her oncologist had not thought she would last 1. She was so ready to go and was showing signs of its nearness for a month already. In fact, when she fell a month before she passed, hospice thought she only had about 2 weeks, but that's my Momma. She and I had a lot in common, from lots of kids and a couple of miscarriages each, gall bladder removed, jejunostomy, children rasied in our faith who choose a different path, cancers in the same family, ... Knowing it was coming and even time to happen doesn't change the fact that this has hit me hard. I must have been running on adrenaline from Saturday through the funeral and not even aware of it, but on the way home, I started experiencing the let-down. I've been really tired and sad despite knowing the relief that Mom has no more pain and is probably now dancing with Daddy at the biggest party/reunion ever. The sadness isn't so much for her as it is that I will miss her and the dynamics between my brothers and sisters and me must again adjust. And taking time to grieve in the midst of full-time job, parenting, and leading a busy life is also not an easy fit.
Last fall, when my oncologist admitted that she doesn't think I'll survive five years, Tom and I did some preplanning. We bought a cemetary plot and ordered our headstone. While we were out of town for Mom's funeral, our headstone was put into place. It is so nice to see. We again marvel at God's timing. I've probably rambled enough, as I need to get ready for work. I'll be taching accounting at 9am, and life goes on.
Louise

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That should have said, "I'll be teaching..."

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Hi Louise, I too am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.  You're right, life doesn't provide us adequate time or space for the grief we need, but it is a beautiful thought that you're able to see you parents together and to know that you'll see them again.

Tess

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Sorry to hear about  your mother
      kind regards   Janet

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Louise:  I am sorry for your loss.  I am glad, though, that it was peaceful and that your daughter was there with her.  My prayers are for you now.

Marjo

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Again, my thanks to all who care. Tuesday would have been Mom and Dad's anniversary, so there is acomfort in beleiving that they are dancing together in heaven. We've been reminded that life goes on. Our 17-year old son bought a ring for his girlfriend last week. She's only 16, so her parents insisted (thank God) that this is only a promise/friendship ring, it cannot be an engagement ring. They say that they have no intentions of getting married before they are close to graduating from college. Now, if Keith were as confident of his career choice as he seems to be of his relationship with Katie, I think I would have fewer worries. Much to pray about, and I will pray about it.
Louise

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Louise,

Sorry to hear of your mother's passing. I think there is a certain amount of healing that comes from writing what we feel. When we don