Topic: Lets talk hair (or lack thereof)

My hair color comes from a bottle. I see no need to be mousy brown when I can be a sassy red. For about the last 10 years, I have gone strawberry blond in the spring and summer and auburn in the fall and winter. Now I have to reconsider this so lets all put our brains together and work this out.

My hair is super thin now. Scalp is showing on the top, but Hans insists it isnt so bad I need to shave it. Opinions and thoughts please....

Should I
A)  go ahead and dye the traditional auburn...but then the hair would be darker so it might make my pale scalp show more.

B) go blonde and hope the lighter hair color blends more with my scalp?

C) for goodness sake, leave well enough alone. Your hair has been through enough!

Discuss.

Kris

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope

Re: Lets talk hair (or lack thereof)

Kris, I don't have much to offer here other then wondering about "purple".  Will Hans forgive me?
Hugs
Marion

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Marion...please, please dont tempt me. I said that if I had to cut it off I would dye it purple or pink when it started to grow back to make it a little more girly. Hans is terrified I might actually do it. Perhaps if it gets thin enough to warrant a shave, I will dye it purple for a couple of days before it gets cut. Hans couldnt complain then because he would have to be supportive of me and the truama of shaving my head.

Kris

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope

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Kris...you can always pin in a purple stripe of hair.  Not enough to terrify Hans, but plenty enough to make you happy.  Besides, you can remove it at will.
Hugs coming your way,
Marion

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Have you visited a wig shop? Not that you need to buy a wig, but you can try on lots of colors and see which one(s) you like most. Your great sense of humor might even allow you to enjoy a wild mix of colors. As for Hans, if he's as much like my husband as I'm guessing he is, he cares about your happiness more than he cares about the color or length of hair on the head. Tom did have to get used to the idea that I might get my head shaved before we cut off the hair, but he actually did the cutting and then, frequently smiled as he stared at my head. Of course, the hair has grown back with curl! For Tom to get used to the idea of me without hair, he visited a website that showed lots of bald women, including movie stars. I suspect the site is still around, but he rarely visits it any more.
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As a blonde, I recommend blonde  smile

7 (edited by Sara Fri, 09 Oct 2009 00:34:28)

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I second the blonde recommendation.  What about adding a few hair pieces into the mix?  Is it too thin to make a weave look natural?

I have a friend going through treatment for brain cancer, and she went bald last year when she started radiation.  I was surprised at how stunning she looks bald.  I don't think my melon head could pull it off as well, but your facial features look like they would also be striking if you were to decide to shave your head. 

On a side note, my husband has been shaving his head since starting treatment for non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma.  He's just entered the radiation stage, and MD Anderson has his scalp marked with a highly technical Sharpie marker.  It's this big, askew oval that has faded to purple.  He's been getting stares everywhere he goes because he has to keep this marking on his head for the duration of the radiation treatments (4 weeks).  Two days ago he went into a gas station, and the kid behind the counter whispered to my husband, "Hey buddy - did you know that someone drew on your head?  One of my friends did that to me once, and I walked around for hours before noticing it!"  HA!  My husband laughed his arse off, and told the kid thanks for making it so funny.

I'm editing this post to add that all these people (Kelly with CC, friend with brain cancer, and husband with lymphoma) grew up in Houston, and are in the same age range.  What are the chances that MD Anderson is spiking the water table to drum up more future business?  heh...

30-something caregiver

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OK Kris, let's be realistic.  Firstly, the secret is out about the bottle colouring so no need for further coyness there.  If the hair is getting thin then think about the practicalities.  Sweden is NOT the warmest country on the globe.  It is important for you to keep warm.  Obviously, there are hats but are they practical 24/7?  In your situation I would be looking toward good quality wigs.  Think what 2 or 3 of them would do to that personality of yours.

Personally, I opted to become a 58  year old skinhead.  Too tight with the cash and long in the tooth to care about appearance, to concern myself with expensive wigs.  But I think we may be different in every score there!

Ron

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Kris, you crack me up! Just when I need a lift you make my hair stand straight up with laughter! I would opt for a couple of inexpensive styles and colors. That way Hans will never know who he is coming home to. And for all you sexy baldies....I would put a different message daily on my head with a magic marker! Honestly, my hair is so baby fine I should not give any hair advise. I am positive that what ever you decide, you will look just awesome!

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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I think the problem has been settled. My nurse took a look at me today and decided it was time to get a prescription for a wig. She said that it is better to get the wig while you still have some hair so you can get a better color match and you can gradually get used to the thing and have it when you really need it. If I understood it correctly, the Swedish healthcare system gives you enough money for 2 wigs now then some more money in 6 months for some more. Apparently wigs have a comfort and fit lifespan of 6 months. Who knew that?

I am a little upset because Hans has sworn that it doesnt look so bad that I need to do anything now, but my nurse was quick on the wig prescription when she saw me. I feel like crying. It makes it all so real. I have done my best to carry on as normal and now I might have this un-normal part of me. I dont understand why it has upset me so much. I have seen my hair get thinner and thinner and I find my hair everywhere so I should have been expecting this. I dont know why the thought of a wig is so upsetting.

So I think I will get one wig that looks like me now and one that is a little more funky for those days when a little funk is needed.

Kris

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope

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Funky sounds like the spirit for you! Might even go real wild. An Afro? Long, short, baseball cap with fringe?
My sister used to play a lot with hair color, and her husband enjoyed it, saying he got to keep dating a variety of people even though he remained faithful to his wife.
Just keep your humor and your attitude in place, and people won't bat an eye at the hair or lack thereof. I was amazed the first time I had my head shaved how many people just wanted to feel my head. Reminded me of the chimney-sweep story, "Good luck will rub off when I ..."
In other words, just be yourself and keep as comfortable as you can.
Have fun at the wig shop!

Louise smile  smile

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Kris....I remember escorting my sister-in-law to the wig shop when she was undergoing chemotherapy.  She was reluctant at first but, we tried out every color and cut, possible and were laughing the entire time.  She always thought that I should change to red (well, you can relate to this) and she was right, it looked great but, with hair underneath a wig it becomes a bit crowded.  My sister in law picked out 3 cool looking wigs and she looked fantastic all the way through her treatments.  I can't imagine anything not looking great on you, either?  Just play with it and you will be sure to find something great.  And, hopefully you can get Hans to take a picture.
Love
Marion

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I vote for vibrant red and maybe start wearing hair in severe pulled back chignon (you know - kind of that sexy prison warden style) as well as a few wigs ... you know how us women love to change looks.... don't settle for one.   LOL

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Kris,

Our lab director was diagnosed with Ovarian cancer and had chemo.  Before she lost her hair she went to the wig shop and had a wig made the exact color and cut of her real hair. 

A month or so later after her hair had thinned we knew the time was coming soon when she would appear at work wearing the wig.  On the day she wore the wig for the first time she got to work around 8:00 am.  When she came through the door she discovered everyone of us in the lab(about 40 of us) AND our Pathologist were all wearing wigs of every style and shape.  There were halloween wigs, including a long "lady Godiva" style and our Pathologist was wearing what looked like a reggie hat with LONG dreadlocks.  There were clown wigs, little orphan Annie wigs, multi colored afros...in short if you could imagine one ....then one of us was wearing it!

My very best friend owns about 35 different wigs.  I ended up wearing several of them at different times during the day.  The funny part is my friend is a black woman and I am about two shades lighter than pale.   I looked like an albino with her wigs on!

When the director came in no one did anything different or indicated anything was out of the ordinary...just kept on with the regular workflow.

She cried a little bit and then began to laugh and couldn't stop!  We all took a photo and she now uses it as a screen saver on her lab computer.

This was over a year ago and the chemo is over, she is healthy and yes her hair came back looking just like it did before. 

Moral of the story....humor goes a long way in dealing with awful situations sometimes.

........and lab people have a truly wicked sense of humor..........

Hugs and love to you!

Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

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After the shock of hearing that I will lose my hair, I am kind of looking forward to getting hats and scarves and wigs.  I need a little variety in my life!

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I may have to join the "shiny top club" one of these days. Since surgery I am loosing quite a bit and when you start loosing what you didn't have much of to begin with, may be time to start looking. Since my hair is a natural platinum color I would opt for a sultry dark brown. Did I say sultry? What's that anymore. Perhaps Hans is not opposed to the wigs as such but is thinking more along the lines you are thinking. Kris, it's been real all along but you choose to kick it in the butt. I have a feeling once you get the wigs you are going to kick butt again! In fact I think both you and Lisa should do some modeling on the web site.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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I don't have what one would call "delicate" or "feminine" features, so losing my hair - my one saving grace - is not going to be pretty.  So I gotta get some pretty hats & scarves or I'll look like Terry Bradshaw.  Eww!

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Lisa...the lady on her picture I had thought was you is absolutely adorable.
Love
Marion

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