Topic: Unsure if primary cancer or mets.

Hi, I found your website doing some research.  My ex had stage II rectal cancer 3 years ago, all PET Scans have come back clean. 

When he was first dx a CT scan did reveal a badly diesesed gall bladder that needed to come out but everyone ignored it and took care of his cancer.  If I am not mistaken, the wall thickness is now a 13.  Now here we are 3 years later and he has been told that the mass on his gall bladder is most likely cancer, he has a spot on his liver as well.  Noone has told him if this is a primary cancer or mets from his rectal cancer.  I have never heard of mets to gall bladder. 

The bad part is his doctors told him they will just go in take out the gall bladder take alook at the liver and thats it.  Yet noone has told him he is terminal or explained how serious this is to him. 

What about Chemo, radiation etc?  He cannot even have surgery for another 3=6 months, becuase he will loose his job if he takes more time off.  I just cannot believe his doctors are not doing anything more.  He is in alot of pain, has to wear diapers because he has diarreah so much and is very thin.   He is not eating much, he is only 43.

Re: Unsure if primary cancer or mets.

You need to get a new Dr. Where do you live? I'm in Ca. and here you can't be fired due to illness. If he needs surgery just do it. This is nothing to let slide.
My Husband John has cholangiocarcinoma and had colon cancer at the same time. Our specialist said they we're both completely seperate cancers.
He has mets to the liver from the colon cancer!!!!
He was dx'd originally in Feb. 2005. had photodynamic therapy, stent placement, internal radiation, was in hospice care from about Oct. 2006 tto Feb 2007 then discharged because they couldn't find any cancer markers in his blood!!!
2 weeks ago he started throwing up, we had new blood tests done and his liver enzymes were off the chart.
This disease is totally unpredictable and totally deadly.
The reason I'm telling you all this is to let you know you can survive longer than they say but YOU have to be agressive with the Drs. Do your research. There are many different treatments, Radio Frequency Ablation (RFA), Cryoablation, Alcohol Ablation.
I don't believe chemo works, just makes you sick.
Good luck to you both,