Topic: Hi there. My 80 y.o. father apparently has this form of cancer
Hi there. My 80 y.o. father apparently has this forum of cancer. When I spoke to his PCP last week (I'm in California - my parents are in the Midwest) the doctor said what kind of cancer it was and I jotted it down (phonetically) and then Googled the name and found this board.
First, my mom was told it was a 6 mm liver tumor (she's 69 and something may have been lost in translation).
What I now understand is that it's an 11 cm tumor that's located (they think) on the biliary tree and perhaps part of the pancreas.
I guess none of that really matters in his case because he is so debilitated from diabetes that he doesn't want to go with any kind of treatment. He's nearly blind and almost deaf and had a quadruple by-pass six years ago. He's tired . . . so tired.
They had suggested three possible options but he has decided to go with hospice.
We just found out about this July 5 and sad to say - his condition has worsened a great deal since then and I think a lot of it is due to his mental state.
I don't know how much I'll be posting here but I have been reading here quite a bit the last few days and I'm really appreciative of the fact that this site exists. Thank you.
I'm going back there to help out this week and won't have computer access but I wish all of you and your family members well.
I'm not sure what these next few months will be like. To be perfectly honest, I'm afraid because I've never been in the caregiver role before. I'm aggravated with myself for feeling so uneasy and fearful and I'm hoping I can pull myself together to be a good support person for both of my parents during this time.
Thanks again for this site.