Topic: My mum

My name is Andrea and I lost my mum 4weeks ago


My mum was a 64 yr old woman, never smoked or drank and lead a fit and healthy life, she was hiking at Easter this year, but within a few weeks she started with severe indigestion, sickness and sleeping problems, and was prescribed ant -acids by her GP, it was only when she became jaundiced that the Dr sent her into a NHS hospital for tests. At first we were told it was gal stones and one of them had moved into the bile duct causing a blockage, but not to worry, it could easily be removed and she would be fine.

My father had her moved to a private hospital, it was then they became concerned with the ultra sound scan results taken by the previous hospital, and they decided to carry out an MRI scan and CT scan only to find a tumor in the bile duct, her liver was spotted and we were told there was nothing more they could do.

For the next 6 weeks I watched my mother die but she remained positive throughout the whole time, the cancer spread to her stomach and colon with such speed she was unable to eat and was violently sick most of the time. She lost so much weight and became weak.

On 16th June at 12.25 am my mum passed away, dad was with her.  It has completely shattered our family, Cholangiocarcinoma is a cruel cancer, the consultant thought it had probably been there for the past 3 years undetected, it was only because it got to the point where the duct became blocked that her symptoms appeared, by that time it was too late.  My mum was one of the kindest most caring ladies I have ever had the privilege to know and I

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Big hugs to you, Andrea.  Your mum is loved and will never be forgotten.

30-something caregiver

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Your mother sounds like a beautiful person. I am sending you my best thoughts and deepest sympathy to you and your family. I am sure nothing we can say will make it better, but please continue to come here and get the support you need during this terrible time.
Kris

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope

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Hya Andrea your memories of your mom will last for ever and ever.
She sounds like she was a fantastic wife and mom.
I am sure everyone on here sends their love and deepest sympathy.
I also hope and pray that you will continue to come on here and get support as some of us continue to do so in these terrible times. love to you all alan's mom xxxxxx

U.K.Member

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My heart aches for you as I feel you are retelling my own story. My sister and I always knew how wonderful our mom was. Like you, she was a wonderful wife to our dad 47 years and the greatest grandma to her grandchildren. What your mom gave you is something you will cherish for the years to come. She gave her family a wonderful legacy to continue.

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Andrea..... My deepest sympathy to you and your family.  May she rest in heavenly peace.
Jeff G.

Take it to the Limit,One More Time! (Eagles)

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Hi Andrea,

Reading your post was like reading my own mother's story.  She was a picture of health at Christmas last year and passed away by February.  She was only 54.  The most difficult thing for me was that I thought I would have more time with Mum.  As it was, I don't think my family even had a chance to come to terms with her having cancer before we lost her.

It has been 5 months now.  Mum is the first thought in my head when I wake up and the last when I fall asleep.  I miss her unbearably.

I wish you and your family much love and strength during this time.

Best wishes,
Sarah

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Andrea,
I am so sorry for your loss.  I also lost my mother.  Just 2 months ago.  And before I had time to grieve for her, I lost my husband to this cancer 12 days later.  I don't think there is ever enough time with your loved one to prepare you for their death.  Your mother sounds like a great worman.  May you find peace in the comfort of your family and friends.
Take care,
Joyce