Topic: End stage- please help
Hello. I am writing from Seoul Korea. I found this site a few weeks ago and I feel like I finally found a lifeline. My dad has been diagnosed with CC about 5 months ago. He seemed to be responding to chemo pretty well until about a few weeks ago when the Doctors inserted two tubes to relieve his jaundice. Everything went downhill from this surgery. He left the hospital unable to walk and in extreme pain. He stopped chemo since then. As of today, my dad is unable to walk, eats very very little and lies down the bed except to use the bathroom which he can't go alone. He only allows my mom to help him in the bathroom. At this point, the doctor said there is nothing more they can do but to make him as comfortable as possible. He have stopped vertually all medication as there is no purpose to them anymore. I love my dad so much. He is such a strong man and seeing him in pain like this makes my blood boil. I hate cancer and what is has done to my dear dad who has worked so hard and earnestly his whole life to take care of his family. He certainly does not deserve this.
I am supposed to get married next Tuesday, exactly a week away from today in Seoul. My entire family wants to postpone the wedding except for my dad who is adament that he will survive until then. He says that my wedding is the only thing that is going for him right now. Me and my mom just don't know what to do. I read from some people's posts that the patient chooses when to leave this world. Maybe my dad will make it to the wedding. Maybe not. I don't know and I don't know what to do. God forbid if he passes away before the wedding, we are planning on cancelling it. Its just right now everything is on loose strings.
I know this sounds strange but I really want to know if my dad can make it in the next week. As of yesturday, he can't control his bladder. What does this mean? I know the end is near but would like to know more signs of what to look at. Currently it is just me and my mom taking care of him. It is just so difficult to see him suffer like this and I really wonder how much more he will be able to take the pain without eating or drinking very little water...