I am so sorry to hear that your family is not doing well. I am sure you do not need the added stress or worry. But Fairydrop, you are doing great. You have a lot going on and anyone would feel overwhelmed. It is ok to have these feelings. I am sure everyone is looking at you with bucket loads of appreciation and awe that you are doing everything you are, taking care of everyone else, and still managing to function. You have a hard road ahead, but you can do it and we are here to help...even if it is just letting you get things off your chest.
Is there any possibility that one of your husbands family members can look after your mother in law? It sounds like his family is all facing some sort of problem, but there might be someone...even a grandchild who can maybe only do it a couple of weeks, but just something so you can have a little break?
Things are changing around you. And I am sure you are scared, lonely, and overwhelmed. But you are strong. It might not feel that way now, but it is that way. Life rarely gives us more than we can handle. You never know how much you can do or how strong you are until life pushes you to find out. Unfortunately you are now being pushed. But you are doing fine, far better than most people given your circumstances.
I hope things settle down for you. And go nudge your husband and tell him that I said you need a hug and his would be the best. I am bossy and that is an order. Take care.
Cancer is a word, not a sentence.
36 year old patient with buckets of hope