Topic: For all us who are grieving

Hi everyone

It is 30 days today that we lost my dad, and this is just so difficult...i have been doing a lot of reading and i found this poem which i would like to share:

John O'Donohue - Irish Poet & Philosopher

When you lose someone you love,
Your life becomes strange,
The ground beneath you becomes fragile,
Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
And some dead echo drags your voice down
Where words have no confidence
Your heart has grown heavy with loss;
And though this loss has wounded others too,
No one knows what has been taken from you
When the silence of absence deepens.

Flickers of guilt kindle regret
For all that was left unsaid or undone.

There are days when you wake up happy;
Again inside the fullness of life,
Until the moment breaks
And you are thrown back
Onto the black tide of loss.
Days when you have your heart back,
You are able to function well
Until in the middle of work or encounter,
Suddenly with no warning,
You are ambushed by grief.

It becomes hard to trust yourself.
All you can depend on now is that
Sorrow will remain faithful to itself.
More than you, it knows its way
And will find the right time
To pull and pull the rope of grief
Until that coiled hill of tears
Has reduced to its last drop.

Gradually, you will learn acquaintance
With the invisible form of your departed;
And when the work of grief is done,
The wound of loss will heal
And you will have learned
To wean your eyes
From that gap in the air
And be able to enter the hearth
In your soul where your loved one
Has awaited your return
All the time.
with love


"My dad, Tony, passed away on 4 October 2010, after a 19 month battle with CC"   - I carry you in my heart, Dad, forever.

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Thank you for posting that lovely poem.....

It has been 16 months since I lost my Dad to cc and  I know the pain you are feeling right now.

Sending you hugs,


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This is absolutely beautiful and oh so true.....

thanks for sharing such a lovely and loving post!


My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

Re: For all us who are grieving

What a beautiful poem, thank-you, Michelle.


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Wow.  Wow is all I can say.  How amazing that someone was able to put into words what I've been feeling, but have been completely unable to verbalize for myself or others.  I'm sharing this with my sister, brother and Mom's sister.

THANK YOU for sharing this here!

my mother lost her 16 month battle with CC 9/26/10
"Mothers have as powerful an influence over the welfare of future generations as all other earthly causes combined."

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Thank you Michelle for sharing this with us all.



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Re: For all us who are grieving

Micsyl, the poem you posted is beautiful.  I had never read or heard of it before today.  Thank you.