Hopefully we can take some of the helplessness away, we are a very helpful and supportive group. If you have specific questions go ahead and ask. There are some people really in the know here, I think there are 5 or 6 here that are more in the know than my doctor!
I am sure you are being a complete rock for your wife, which can be emotionally draining. I didnt know how hard it was on the "healthy" one until my husband and I had a joint session with my psychologist and he broke down in tears over his fear of losing me. He is always so strong to my face. So, we all know that it is tough and if you just need to have a little rant or some encouragement we are here too.
Sorry you had to join our little club, but you did will not find a nicer group...too bad it is such terrible circumstances.
How is your wife doing? What can we do to help?
Cancer is a word, not a sentence.
36 year old patient with buckets of hope